(Closed) Knot tying ceremony

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Were doing something similar, where the officiant ties a knot around our joined hands.. is this what you’re reffering too?


if so you can google “hand fasting ceremony” and a lot of ideas will come up. 🙂

Post # 5
12 posts
  • Wedding: April 2013



Hi I am a wedding planner in Richmond VA and in looking for information on Handfasting I found your post. I started looking into the fisherman’s knot too. I found this link on how to tie the knot. I would have the rope up at the alter and have your officiant present the rope to the you. Then, have him/her explain that instead of lighting a unity candle to symbolize the two of you coming together as one, you have chosen to ” Tie the Knot “. Then, you can tie your end then he can tie his end at the alter. as you are doing this have the officiant explain that you are tying a triple fisherman’s knot, representing the past that brought you two together. the present moment of this union and the future you two plan together from this day forward. that although the fisherman’s knot is one of the simplest knots to tie, it is also one of the strongest. that the rope its self will break before the knot will. Then, facing the officiant or the guests pull the rope together becoming one.  later you can trim the ends and frame it in a nice shadow box framed on the mat that well wishers have signed. 


I just found this on another website – I want this for my wedding too. Try to google “fisherman knot tying wedding – not hand”. Good luck!


Post # 6
1544 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

thats a good idea! Especially since a few of the venues we are looking at don’t allow real candles. Actually I like it better then the tradition unity candle! Thanks!

Post # 7
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are using the blessing of the hands as we are not pagan ( nor are we of any faith) as it is a very sweet non-denominationl blessing


BRIDE, please face GROOM, and hold his hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.

These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.

These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within you.

These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your baby for the first time.

These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family.

These are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief wrack your mind.

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

GROOM, please hold BRIDE hands, palms up, where you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges her love and commitment to you all the days of her life.

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go.

These are the hands that will massage tension from your neck and back in the evenings after you’ve both had a long hard day.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time she tells you that you are to have another child, that together you have created a new life.

These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

Bless these hands that you see before you this day.

May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment.

Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love.

Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in grace, rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your perfection.

May GROOM and BRIDE see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide

Post # 10
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m doing this in my ceremony as well.  Here is the wording we will be using:

We will be prompted with the traditional intentions segment and say our I DO’s and then we will follow with this knot part of the ceremony:

Story of the True-Lover’s Knot: (Officiant reads)

Around the turn of the nineteenth century, an art form arose from the ranks of deep-water sailors. That art form was KNOTTING. Sailors used rope to create knots that were anywhere from simple to elaborate. Some knots were purely for use, some knots were created for decorative use. Some knots were used to signify meaning. One knot that arose during this time period that was heavily laden with meaning was the TRUE-LOVERS’ KNOT.

The true lover’s knot is a simple and clear knot, implying its forthright goal. It is made up of two overhand knots, linked together, much like the “true-lovers” are in their hearts. A deep-water sailor would tie the knot loosely, and send it to his intended back home. Upon receiving it, the woman could:

 a) untie it, meaning the sailor shouldn’t show his face around the next time he was in port, or

b) she could send it back, leaving it loose, the way she received it, meaning the sailor would be welcomed home, but he better be on his best behavior, or

c) she could tighten the knot before returning it,

meaning the sailor should hurry his way to the homestead.

Groom, since you are asking Bride to marry you, take this cord, which represents the bond between you, and tie the knot which signifies your intentions for your gathered friends and family to see.

Groom ties the knot and hands the rope to Bride.

Bride, will you tighten the knot to represent how you will hold his heart tight to yours.

Bride tightens knot and hands rope to Officiant. Officiant holds knot up for all to see.

I see by this knot before me that you both share the same intentions concerning this relationship, that you will hold each other’s heart tight, and form a strong bond from here to forever.

Officiant hands rope to Best man.

Post # 11
3501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2002

@tbskelly:  where did you guys get your rope / knot from ?

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