(Closed) Knowing he has the ring is worse then him not having a ring yet…. now what

posted 4 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
493 posts
Helper bee

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bdbicking:  DONT BRING IT UP


I found the ring 2 months before my fiance proposed.  When he finally did it was AMAZZZZZZINNGGGGGGGGGGGGG!  He had a huge plan in place.. a lot of guys like to plan things out so let this be his moment.  He has the ring already so breathe a sigh of relief, the anticipation is actually fun!!  be patient and it will happen sooner than you think.  I would suggest whatever you do DO NOT talk about the time crunch of a the fall etc, he is probably already under a lot of stress already trying to find the perfect moment!   I have had friends whose boyfriends proposed within a week of buying the ring, and others who planned occassions and waited a few weeks (and in 1 case 7 months, for a trip to europe!!!) 

Post # 3
33 posts

I am so glad I didn’t get to have this temptation. My fiance got the ring maybe an hour before he gave it to me. Good thing, too, I am notoriously nosy lol!

Post # 4
7556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Darling Husband waited 3 months because he wanted to do a big thing while we were on vacation.

Three days doesn’t seem that long to me if he’s planning something special. Try to give him some time.

Post # 5
1910 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I understand, just be patient. One of the big steps has already been taken, he purchased the ring. My Darling Husband proposed NINE months after he purchased the ring. But the proposal was public and pretty elaborate. A Halloween costume was involved lol.

Post # 7
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

yeah three days is nothing. My ring sat in DH’s closet for three MONTHS! Luckily by then, I’d almost forgotten about it and was caught off guard instead of expecting it.

His thought was, girls plan the wedding, I get to plan this.  🙂

He’s trying to surprise you; let him 🙂

Post # 8
2 posts

I am in a similar boat! I am not sure whether or not he has bought the ring yet, but we have talked about getting engaged. I know it’s coming up within the next couple weeks, but I am anxious to even wait. I am so impatient about it I would rather him just ask while we are at home in pajamas than to wait for the event!

Hopefully it comes for you soon! I couldnt’ imagine being able to see the ring and know he has it in his pocket and just be sitting there waiting for it!

Keep us posted!

Post # 9
3389 posts
Sugar bee

bdbicking:  Just try to be patient and enjoy these last few days as “boyfriend/girlfriend” and onwards to having a FI! 🙂  I was with Fiance when he bought my ring, and he didn’t propose for a few months afterwards.  Some days it was hard to wait, but I was extremely involved in picking out the ring, so the least I could give him was to be patient while he planned out the proposal in his own time! 

Post # 10
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I know it seems impossible right now, but BE PATIENT.

I picked my ring and then ended up asking to be proposed to on a certain date (long story, but we needed to get engaged before a bunch of things were about to happen in our lives). Because I pushed him a bit, my fiancee didn’t really get a chance to plan the proposal he wanted, and he also accidentally texted me his plans before it happened. I love him to death, but I can’t help but feel a little jealous of people who were totally and completely surprised by the timing and manner of their proposal. Let him do this on his own, you won’t regret it!

Post # 11
124 posts
Blushing bee

I am in the same boat. Ring has been sitting in a closet in our house for over a month. It it so bad that some days I cant even speak to him. I cannot understand what he is waiting for, we have no vacations planned and my boyfriend has never planned anything in his life. He always does things on impulse and i never get my hopes up for him to surprise me because it is always a let down. So, timeline is August 1st and I feel like dying. 

Post # 12
10670 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m sorry, but I found the chainsaw box thing kind of funny.  Such a guy thing.

Definitely, let him take it from here.  He has a plan, give him the space to do it his way.  I won’t tell you to relax because I know you can’t but try to trust him.  If you trust him enough to be willing to marry him, you should be willing to trust him enough to plan the proposal.

Keep us posted, please.

Post # 13
9528 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I just worry about the timeline in planning. I was really bored at work so I looked up dates and venues before he proposed, we booked the venue and hired a pre nup lawyer before the question. You can have the same approach, dont mention ring, proposal but just timing. Mentioned that you agreed on the fall and after a little research the venues in the area are pretty booked so…. Should we get on that or wait? Wont work on every guy, you know what would work for you. Just sayin, being in the planning stages helps when waiting. 


Mine waited about 4-6 weeks after picking the custom ring up. I knew where it was but no idea what he created. it was tough! But the proposal was pretty amazing, totally worth not peeking or bringing it up. 

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