(Closed) Koreans and RSVPs

posted 7 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m Korean too, and I even wondered about sending invites to my side of the family!  I think just calling them up and getting the verbal is probably standard.  I’m not 100% sure, but all this invite and RSVP stuff might be more of a Western thing.  I definitely wouldn’t expect to get RSVPs back from my family (don’t even know if I’d include them), but I am pretty certain they would all attend.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I agree with nycnewbee, that RSVPs might be more of a Western thing. My husband is Vietnamese, and we had a very hard time getting RSVPs back from his family. It was a bit easier to convince people since we needed their meal choices, but I ended up having to ask his mom to call a lot of people.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

RSVPS are taken more seriously by westerners.. I know this for a fact..

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m Chinese and only a handful of my side sent RSVPs back and they were definitely the younger generation.

Even though we’ve gotten plenty of Chinese Invitations to traditonal Chinese Weddings I’ve always felt that most people don’t send back RSVPs.

I just kept nagging my mom to get definite yes or nos from people who were like oh I might be able to if I get off work. Well ask your boss NOW!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ha!! My Fiance’ is Korean as well.  I addressed the rest of the invitations last night that were on his mothers list, all korean of course, and just knew that I wouldnt get hardly any of them back, if any!  I am going to have her start calling them two weeks after I mail them out to get the head count.  He has family coming in from Korea for the wedding and I just didnt even bother to send any to them.  Too funny!! I thought I was the only one!

Post # 8
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Worker bee

My boyfriend is Korean as well and we didn’t get any RSVPs from them. His mother and sister didn’t even RSVP to my bridal shower, despite it not being thrown by me and being held at my bridesmaid’s house. We’re not that close and I finally just had to ask if they were coming; it was a very awkward moment. I’m just assuming they’re coming to the wedding.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@knittybynature: It took four years for my Korean FI’s family to accept me completely.  We are incorporating a few korean things into the wedding but not many. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Haha yeah, the generation before us definitely never RSVP back. I only have a couple of family members coming from my Korean side and they just keep asking for verbal confirmation on the date. I might still send them invites, but they wouldn’t miss not getting them.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Hahaha, I’m 1/2 Korean and have experienced similar frustrations with the asian side of my family.  Try explaining the concept of a baby shower…..not fun.  Try not to get too upset with them because even if they don’t RSVP, they’ll probably come to your wedding and give lots of cash gifts (my experiences anyway).  Good luck!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ya you will just need to or have his family contact  the other members to get the info. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

From my understanding, in Korea the whole community/church is invited, so they don’t have head counts or rsvp-ing. You should follow up and make some calls.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Experiencing this full on right now! It’d be easier if my cousin and her family (spouse, children) lived in the states, but she’s giving me a verbal RSVP via email that they’ll be flying in from Korea. I guess that’s an improvement over not getting one at all, but she won’t tell me how many are actually coming. Sigh.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Fiance is half Korean and I’m worried about random people showing up that are not on our invite list that have been invited by his mother. We may have to check invites at the door!!!!

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