Labor and Delivery Question

posted 12 months ago in TTC
Post # 16
327 posts
Helper bee

I can’t even remember if it was a man or a woman who delivered my 10 month old. It never crossed my mind to care who delivered my baby…didnt realise that was a thing…

I had a midwife with me for most of my labour, a lovely young woman I had never met before, I can’t remember her name and wouldn’t recognise her now if I passed her on the street! I presume she was just whatever midwife was on duty/available when I was in…

Post # 17
221 posts
Helper bee

I think this is extremely common! There are some pros and cons to it though. My practice in town has 4 doctors and they all rotate who’s on call. However, my doctor does come in and deliver all his patients while the other 3 don’t. I just had my baby the end of July and while I’m overall fairly happy with my experience I didn’t have my doctor until the very end of pushing! I ended up pushing for 3 hours and the baby was held up for awhile (non emergency situation thankfully!) but it was in the middle of the night and the nurses help you until birth is very close then they call in the doctor. So out of all my labor and pushing I only had the doctor there for the last 45 minutes. Looking back I think I would have done a little better had the doctor been there when I started pushing. Also my doctor has a reputation for more inductions too. I can’t say that’s true because I wasn’t pushed towards one but it makes sense that a doctor with a lot of patients and could get called in anytime and any day would like a little more of a schedule. So I really do think there are some pros to the OBs rotating. Plus, you’ll be seeing far more of your nurses throughout labor and afterwards than a doctor anyways. 

Post # 18
3157 posts
Sugar bee

My OB told me she makes it to 80% of her patients deliveries and I was luckily one of them! (I loved my OB). She came in when it was time to push and helped me through the delivery. I found pushing to be the most stressful part so I was def glad she was there … but I’m sure it woulda been ok with someone else too. 

Post # 19
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My daughter was delivered by a hospitalist. The end of my labor progressed super quickly and the doctor on call for my practice didn’t make it in time because I delivered right around the shift change at 7 am. I didn’t care who delivered my baby – just wanted her to come out! In the end, it shouldn’t matter. I tried to plan and imagine so many scenarios heading into labor and delivery, and I was so concerned for who my doctor would be. It didn’t matter.

Post # 20
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

This is very common in large practices. I go to a small practice with only two doctors and my actual OB attends over 90% of his patients births (his partner will attend the others or he completely misses them because labor is too fast). I know he slept in his office that’s closeby the hospital the night I was in labor and clearly having a baby before daybreak, and I’ve been told by nurses at the hospital that he does does that when he’s got moms who will give birth in the middle of the night so he can get to the hospital within 10 minutes. This type of care was important to me so I sought a doctor like him out when I was pregnant with my son and have stayed with him for this pregnancy. You can find doctors like him, but they’re far and few between I’ve found. 

Post # 21
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I live in a fairly large city and most people’s OBs are associated with large hospital medical groups. It’s really uncommon to have your OB be the one to deliver your baby and definitely something you’d have to look hard for. I’ve had two babies and saw midwives (associated with a large hospital). I delivered in the hospital and both times I’d never met the midwives who delivered my baby and both times I was there during a shift change (every 12 hrs), so the midwife who delivered me wasn’t the one who checked me in.

I had no problems with this. Also you’ll never know you’re L&D nurses beforehand and they’re the ones with you the whole time. They are your biggest support after your partner. My first birth the midwife checked in on me every couple of hours and then was there for pushing. Second birth was during the first covid peak in my state and L&D was empty. The midwife stayed with me almost my whole labor which was amazing. I think I had no issues with it because there’s a whole philosophy around the midwife model of care that they all subscribed to. 

Post # 22
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My OB attended my childs birth, and makes it to almost all of her patients deliveries. They called her shortly after I arrived, she was in my room within half an hour, then in and out while I laboured the next 6 hours or so. She was fantastic and super supportive. I remember her rubbing my back at one point during labour. So pleased I’ve been able to get her again for baby #2!

Post # 23
828 posts
Busy bee

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@stephy1872:  I see a solo practitioner and he was amazing throughout my pregnancy and made sure to be there for delivery. I think barring vacation plans, he goes to hospital to deliver babies all the time because there’s been times I had to wait longer to see him if he was stuck in hospital

Post # 24
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think it’s super common around here, everyone I know has a similar situation. Your OB will try to schedule inductions or c sections for when they are on shift, but otherwise you get who you get. I have had two babies with the same practice and my OB has been there for neither. I didn’t mind though. The actual doctor is barely there. 

Post # 25
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I live (expat) in SEA and I had a private obgyn. I had monthly visit/scans with him at his practice and he delivered my baby. He came to check on me 2 hours after I was admitted to the labour ward, then again after 2 hours, then another 2, and then he stayed until baby was ready to come out.

I am really glad it was him and not someone else (only way this could have happened is if he was on holiday, but he warns his patients of his plans 1 year in advance) because it was a long labour and complicated delivery and I had to basically trust him and his skills 100%. He was very understanding with me when I was paralised by fear and someone with a different attitude would have made the situation so much worse.

(My doula was also with me)

Post # 26
3380 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m in the UK so system here is different. I had midwife led care so only saw a doctor when in hospital for bleeds. 

I saw mostly the same midwife for all my ante natal appointments (she missed 2 due to holidays) the midwife who delivered me was a stranger though. It didn’t matter. She was amazing and I felt totally at ease with her.

when I had my second I used the same hospital. I had a different midwife for antenatal care but I was delivered by the same midwife I’d had first time round. This isn’t common but it was nice. The midwife who did my antenatal care for my first, did my post birth checks for my second lol. 

Post # 27
1491 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t even keep the same OB for my prenatals (due to Covid) and a random doctor delivered my baby. But honestly, it didn’t even matter to me when the time came. I thought it would be “weird” but labor was such a whirlwind (I delievered an hour after I arrived at the hospital!) and I was so focused on getting the little one out that I couldn’t care less who delivered him as long as they did a good job. Especially important for me since I got a 3rd degree tear and needed quality stitches. 

Post # 28
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I just had my first baby in February ao this is still fresh for me. 

My OB practice is very big (like 15 doctors/PAs/midwives) and like others said, they rotated me during my appointments to get to know as many as possible. I knew that the probability of having my female OB was slim. 

When I admitted and delivered (I was in L&D from 8pm until noon the next day), I never once saw a doctor. It was me, my husband, one nurse, and sometimes the midwife on call. When the shift change happened, the new midwife was one that I had seen multiple times and was thrilled she was there. I only pushed for 30 minutes, but for 20 of those minutes it was just my husband and the nurse in the room and was quite intimate and lovely. My midwife came in at the end. 

Post # 30
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My OB practice had five doctors, and I had a chance to meet all of them while I was pregnant. (Although I saw some way more than others, and the one who was on call when I went into labor I think I’d only met once.) 

But at the end of the day it didn’t really matter because (at least in my experience) it’s the nurses who run the show.  I didn’t even see my doctor until about twenty-two hours in when she came to break my water, and then again about two hours later to inform me I’d be needing a c-section. (Which she obviously also preformed, but if memory serves she was gone by the time the curtain came down and I didn’t see her again until the next day when she briefly stopped by my room to see how I was doing.) 

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