Post # 1
I’m considering getting married on Labor Day of 2014 on Monday and wanted to get everyone’s thoughts on this. There are a lot of pros and cons:
Pros: The venue offers a HUGE (think $12,000) discount for military if you get married on a Monday thru Thursday, which is why we are considering the labor day holiday Monday. Essentially the venue goes from $16,500 to $5,500.
Pros: 3/4 of our guests will be family coming from out of town. They’ll likely arrive on Friday or Saturday so we can spend more time with them and see them more before the wedding.
Pros: All of our friends that are in town will have the day off and about half of our friends on the guest list are military so it will be easy for them to request leave for Tuesday and get the day after the wedding off for recovery.
Cons: It’s an evening wedding so everyone will need to take Tuesday off.
Pros: We are having a small wedding with a max of 75 people so it doesn’t seem too unreasonable to ask people to take 1 day off for the wedding.
Cons: If people have annual bbq’s or whatever they attend on labor day they may not be able to attend or they will have to miss their plans.
What are your thoughts on a labor day wedding? Is it acceptable? How would you feel about attending a wedding on labor day? I personally wouldn’t mind since I already have the day off and would not mind taking the day after off for a friend’s or family member’s wedding but wanted to get other people’s thoughts.
Post # 3
We were married on the Sunday of Labor Day Weekend in 2011. Even then, we had a few OOT people opt out of coming due to long weekend plans. I think that having your Monday wedding is okay, as long as you are prepared to have some people decline their invitations! That’s a pretty big discount to have a Monday wedding though. I can see the temptation!
Post # 4
@Miss_AshNicole: I agree with @pengoala: if you’re prepared for people to miss it, then go for it. It may happen but if you give people a lot of notice of the date, it may help them choose to come to your wedding 🙂
Post # 5
Could you do a daytime wedding so that more people could attend and not have to take Tuesday off of work?
while the discount is a huge pro for you, I’d probably not attend a Monday evening wedding unless It was for a very good friend. But honestly, it seems that the people you plan on inviting would be able to make it and get that Tuesday off. So ask a few of your VIP’s and see what they say!
Post # 6
I love Labor Day/Memorial Day weddings. You should plan for it to end by 10pm. With even in town people needing to work the next day, they will leave by that time anyway (or ealier). If you want a longer reception, you should plan accordingly.
Post # 7
@Miss_AshNicole: Rule of thumb: Consider the options, and then DO WHAT YOU WANT! I think having a Labor Day wedding is essentially the same as having what would normally be a Sunday wedding, and I don’t see anything wrong with that. Hell, I went to a Thursday wedding once! You just do what you have to do for the people you love. Sometimes you can’t (some people won’t be able to make it, for whatever reason) and the bride and groom will need to accept that. But ultimately it’s your day and you need to do what makes you feel happy and comfortable. If it’s what you want, I say go for it!
Post # 8
@Miss_AshNicole: Sorry double post…
Actually the one thing I would do is check that those who you REALLY REALLY want to be there would be able to make it, since some people do have annual labor day plans.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Miss_AshNicole: Do they count a holiday Monday in the discount? Most vendors charge a premium for holidays.
Personally, I wouldn’t attend an evening wedding on a Monday, especially if the venue is out of town. I am also not a big fan of holiday weddings; I only get a few holidays per year and I prefer spending it lying on the beach or relaxing by the river.
Post # 10
I’m getting married on labour Day Sunday 2013, and would have taken the Monday had it been available! Personaly I don’t see a problem with it.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Honestly I’d be kind of annoyed as a guest if you had the whole long weekend to get married, and you still chose Monday = I still have to take a day off work. I totally understand your logic – just saying that it might inconvenience a lot of your guests who are mostly from out of town. If you don’t mind more people declining, then you’re good. Just don’t hold a grudge against people who have to decline….
Post # 12
are you sure that discounted monday price applies to holiday weekends as well?
Post # 13
We’re having our wedding on Sunday of a long weekend because the venue gave us a 50% discount to do so. We were prepared for people to say no due to the long weekend but so far everyone is coming. You might be surprised!
Post # 14
If it was Labor Day Sunday, I’d have a better chance of coming. Labor Day Monday? Probably not because I’d have to turn a long weekend into an extra long weekend and September is a very busy month at work.
Post # 15
@Miss_AshNicole: I would go! But I know a lot of people wouldn’t, because some people always go out of town for those weekends (it’s easy to take a vacation and just tack on a day or two since you already have 3 days).
Post # 16
We’re getting married on Sunday of Labor Day weekend, but that’s because the majority of people have the following day off. I personally wouldn’t love going to a wedding on Monday because most people that are flying in for the long weekend, would be flying out that night. Also, for locals, it’s like Sunday weddings where you have to go to work the next day. Be prepared for a lot of declines and people leaving the wedding reception early. I went to a Sunday wedding where I was one of the last people left (at 10 pm) but they had booked the venue through midnight. But if your goal is to have less people, and don’t mind them leaving earlier than normal, then go for it! It’s your day!