Post # 1
Our wedding is Labor Day weekend, on the Saturday. We did not send out save the dates, but have notified almost all of our immediate relatives and important guests. Our caterer wants a head count two weeks before the wedding, and a seating chart one week before. She suggested putting the RSVP date three weeks before our wedding.
But I kind of want peace of mind and don’t want to be doing placecards and table seatings the last week or two before the wedding. Would it be OK to make RSVP date four weeks ahead? I feel like, since it’s Labor Day, it might be OK?
Also, most suggest sending invites out two months ahead. Since we didn’t do STDs and its a holiday weekend, would sending them out Memorial Day weekend/first week of June be OK? Too early? (3 month mark.)
Post # 3
Our RSVP date was 4 weeks before the wedding and it was okay. We had to chase down some guests, but not as many as I thought might need to be chased down. Since it’s a holiday weekend and your RSVP date would be in early August, sending them in early June should be okay and give people ample time to make travel arrangements since you didn’t do STD’s.
Post # 4
I’m getting married on the Friday before Labor Day weekend — September 2. We sent save the dates out in early March. I plan to send our invitations out the end of June/early July, and request that the guests RSVP by August 2. That way, I have a week or so to follow-up with guests who don’t respond.
I think making your RSVP dates four weeks ahead is ok. I’ve heard that invitations are usually sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. However, I don’t think it’s a problem if you send them out a bit earlier. Maybe mid-June would work? Not sure if Memorial Day is too early. In any event, I’m sure people would appreciate the early heads up since you’re getting married on a holiday weekend. 🙂
Post # 5
I think sending out invitations 3 months in advance is fine, especially if it is a holiday weekend (it’s better to be too early than too late!!). We are sending our invites out in late June/ early July and we are asking for our RSVP’s back 4 weeks before the wedding. I would rather have an extra week to prepare things (not to mention call the people who haven’t RSVP’d!!). And from a guest point of view, I don’t think it makes a difference to send the RSVP’s back 4 weeks before the wedding or 3 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 6
Since you didn’t send out save the dates, I think sending them out even earlier than 3 months is totally acceptable, especially since your wedding is on a holiday weekend. I really appreciate when people send things out early so I can plan accordingly (even more so when travel is involved).
Post # 7
I agree that you should send them out as soon as you realistically can. In my opinion, 2 months is just not enough if I factor in out-of-town travel and a holiday weekend and saving up to attend a wedding. I’m sure you’ll have at least a few guests like me who’ll appreciate it!
Post # 8
We got married last Labor Day weekend. Wedding was September 5th, RSVPs due August 5th. I would definitely give yourself 4 weeks because not everyone will actually RSVP and you’ll need to spend a few days calling/emailing and getting a final headcount. Then the seating charts, etc will take time.
We sent out invitations 2 months before, but we had sent STDs earlier. I think in your situation 3 months makes sense.
Post # 9
We’re getting married the same day, and also did not send save-the-dates. We’re making the invitations now and I plan to get them out by the end of April, with an RSVP date of July 23. That leaves two weeks for us to hunt down the stragglers. Our venue requested final count and payment 30 days in advance, with a final final count 14 days in advance but payment with a cashier’s check instead of personal checks.
I think with the holiday weekend it would be fine to get invitations out earlier than later. If anyone is so offended that sent invitations earlier than 2 months that they don’t come… too bad 🙂