Hello date twins!
There’s a whole lot to get done, that can’t get done until I can resolve two very important things: the officiant, and the catering.
Our potential officiant is a friend of ours, and the wife of the owner of our venue (which is a music club). She suggested to us that she could get ordained, and marry us on the stage of the place. I was over the moon when she suggested it in January. Since then she’s said she’s not sure…still not sure, still not sure (it’s not clear to me why not), and 5 months later she’s still not sure but “has someone in mind” if she ends up not becoming ordained. Which is very nice, but the point of holding the ceremony there on the stage was that SHE would do it. Having a stranger do it is not what I want, otherwise we would have just stuck to the town hall idea.
She is also supposed to be getting me quotes on various options of open bar. Been waiting for those since February. So I have no idea what I’m looking at.
The kitchen owner at this venue has since told me he can’t cater (he was going to do it for pennies on the dollar). So I’ve been snooping around for catering options (food trucks, sub trays, appetizers, restaurants, all the non-catering-company stuff), but without a bar estimate, I don’t know what we can afford for catering.
I can’t complete the invitations until I know if the ceremony will be there, and until I know if we’re doing open bar all day or on certain drinks between X hours. So, I feel totally stuck. It *almost* makes me say screw it, let’s just go to town hall.
GAH, now I’m all afluster! Maybe a list of what I do have done will make me feel better:
Dress. My ring. 1/2 of the centerpiece foundations. 1/2 of the votive holders. Music. Cake (cupcakes). Guest book. Photographer.
DIY to do’s that surprisingly I’m NOT stressing about: sheet music confetti. Sheet music banners. Bride & Groom stool covers. Table cards. The other half of the centerpieces and votive holders.
I’ll feel so much better when those two biggies are resolved, but for now I’m working hard at not having a total bridezilla meltdown.