(Closed) Labor Day weekend wedding

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 46
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    Buzzing bee

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    hssweetheart :  But if your guests aren’t opposed to it, does it really matter what a bunch of us on the internet think?

    I know generally speaking, I would prefer to attend events (not just weddings) on the weekends, especially if there’s a lengthy drive involved. And doubly so for an evening event.

    But my vote is to check with your guests, see what the consensus is (keep in mind, what they say NOW might actually be different than how they RSVP) and go from there. I would ask the venue to keep you on a cancellation list, in case a more desireable date comes up and you haven’t sent Save the Dates/invites yet. A secondary vote is move the wedding forward a few months to May.

    Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    If you’re doing Friday and your guests will have to take off Thursday and Friday why do you need a long weekend? This avoids the “taking off work before a holiday” issue which I also wouldn’t be able to do. After partying on a Friday, I’m sure Saturday and Sunday will be enough time to recover. The Monday off won’t matter. 

    Post # 48
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    After your updates, I am wondering why you asked the question at all. Normally, I would say that if a person has a Friday wedding, especially on a holiday weekend, they should be prepared for a fair number of declines. But because your guests love you, apparently they will not mind spending two days of vacation AND a long weekend for your wedding. If that’s the case, then why ask? You seem sure that your guests will attend anytime you decide you want to hold things, so it doesn’t matter what is most convenient for guests or what other people think.

    Post # 49
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    Busy Beekeeper

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    hssweetheart :  So I realize Sunday at your venue is already booked, but here is something to consider if no one has mentioned it yet:  A lot of jobs do not allow staff to take off the day before or after a holiday (unless they’re at death’s door, with a doctors note!).  School district staff, for instance, where I work.  As such, some people aren’t going to be able to leave work on Thursday/Friday to travel to your Friday wedding because it’s technically the work day before Labor Day, which they already have off.  So plan accordingly depending on your guest list!

    Post # 50
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    Buzzing bee

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    hssweetheart :  people can make the choice if they want to take a Monday off or not to rest. You’re forcing them to take Thursday off to drive 10 hours, pay for a hotel Thursday night, take Friday off work, pay for a hotel Friday, drove home all Saturday. That means they have to take 2 days off and pay for a hotel 2 nights. And hotels are extra pricy during holidays 

    I don’t mean to be rude, but being accommodating to your guests is more important than having perfect pictures. If you find a Sunday, people can drive Saturday, and go home Monday, meaning they only take 1 day off work. 

    I think it’s rude to plan a wedding you know people will be out 2 vacation days to even attend, unless it’s a destination wedding where they’re getting a vacation out of it. 

    Post # 51
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    Buzzing bee

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    hssweetheart :  also, you’re not giving them Monday off…their jobs are giving them the day off. 

    At the end of the day do whatever you want – but you’ve gotten 4 pages of people saying they wouldn’t appreciate it. People are excited for your wedding, I’m sure, but that doesn’t mean they’ll be pumped to take 2 days off, drive 20 hours and pay for 2 hotel nights just because it’ll be perfect pictures and it’s a 30 minutes from your house. 

    Wedding guest comfort and fun > bride vision, in my opinion. 

    Post # 52
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Yeah, not going to lie…I would not be attending…long weekends from work for a holiday are my personal staycation time.

    Post # 53
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Obviously you know your guests best but I would not take two days off of work unless we are very close. You say you want people to stay late but I would want to get on the road early so I still wouldn’t stay late if I had Monday off because I would drive back Sunday unless it’s an interesting destination.

    I would choose a Sunday on a normal weekend so people only need to take off one day.

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Fiance and I talked about Labor Day Weekend when we were initially planning. However, since it is a big travel weekend, flights and hotels were significantly more expensive than the following week. 

    Would it be possible to do the weekend before or the weekend after? Or wait until October, since it sounds like your venue might open up for a Saturday after that?

    Post # 56
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2017 - Living Desert Zoo and Gardens

    I personally am not at all a fan of holiday weddings. The one I’ve been invited to was on New Year’s DAY (not Eve) and I didn’t go because I really did not want to spend my New Year’s Day there, when I’d rather be lounging around and watching the Rose Parade, than be at someone’s wedding. It was a super casual, low-budget one as well, so we just sat home and watched the livestream of the ceremony. But if you know your crowd and know they won’t mind, I don’t think it’s an issue.

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t take off an extra day to travel to go to a Friday wedding. And 10 hours is a pretty significant drive. It sounds like you already have your mind made up though.

    Post # 58
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    It sounds like you love your venue more than you love your guests. There are always other venues, but you are choosing to make this as difficult as possible for everyone. Just do it on a random Wednesday and get it over with.

    Post # 59
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I really hope that your finger slipped while you were meaning to type “1 hour drive.” Asking people to take off the Thursday and Friday before Labor Day so you can have your perfect venue at the perfect time at the perfect price? Rude as hell. 

    Post # 60
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    My boyfriend and I are flying out early tomorrow morning for his sister’s wedding, which is Saturday. We have to be there tomorrow because she wants us at the rehearsal dinner.

    It was either pay $$$$ for a 2 hour flight or leave today (Thursday) and drive 8 hours. Since my boyfriend could not get the day off, we opted to fly. Holy crap, were flights expensive! Not only going out, but coming home too. We figured we’re paying around 30% more.

    But if you’re so sure your friends and family don’t mind then go for it. It sounds like your mind was made up already.

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