(Closed) Labor Day Weekend Wedding: Good or Bad?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Labor Day Weekend Weddings: Good or Bad?

    Good, everyone has an extra day to travel

    Bad, it's rude to take up a holiday weekend

  • Post # 3
    4594 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I think it depends on the holiday.  Go for it!

    Post # 4
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I just flew to one last fall.  I think it’s fine.  I made it a trip to visit the places as I have never been to that city before.  HOWEVER, do keep in mind holiday weekend tend to have higher price on ticket and hotel.  If you plan on having holiday weekend, better let the guests know early so that can book early to avoid high fees when it get closer to your wedding date. 

    Another thing to remember is that it is indeed a holiday weekend.  Your show up rate will be lower than normal.  If you don’t mind some people can’t make it, I say go for it. 

    Post # 5
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I voted rude, but I don’t know if I would go as far as that.  I do find it annoying to spend my extra holiday time traveling for a wedding though.  I live 3 hours away from my partner so it’s nice getting long weekends to ourselves.  But that being said, close friends and family probably won’t mind so much unless there is a traditional trip that certain members do every year.  I think it depends more on the type of people you are inviting and if there are a lot Out of Town.

    Post # 6
    3356 posts
    Sugar bee

    It’s not rude, but as a guest I do not like it.  There are very few long weekends, and those that exist have very strong traditions.  Every labour day I have set plans to go to a cottage.  While I would miss doing it for someone closes wedding, I wouldn’t be that thrilled about it.

    I do think you will get a lower turnout if you have it on a long weekend.  If this wasn’t someone super close, I would probably decline.


    Post # 7
    672 posts
    Busy bee

    I think the idea of it being rude to plan around holidays probably applies mostly to more family-oriented holidays. I realize that some families may have Labor Day traditions, but they probably aren’t on the same level as, say, Thanksgiving or Christmas (or other major religious holidays).

    I’d be fine with it, but we usually do no more than a small cookout, if that, on Labor Day and Memorial Day.

    Post # 8
    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

      I was fine with it. A few years ago, I went to my second cousin’s wedding in Chicago. I flew up after work and then rode back home with my mom on Sunday. I actually loved having the extra day on Monday to relax and unwind from it all. It was nice not having to go directly to work the next day. I don’t know how many people they invited, but they had a good crowd. I say go for it!

    Post # 9
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m having mine on the SUNDAY of memorial day weekend. Doing it on a sunday saves money. And majority of my guests live out of state. They like having the long weekend to celebrate and travel.

    Post # 10
    47412 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I prefer weddings on long weekends. I don’t need to use any vacation days for travel.

    Post # 11
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    One of our prospective dates was MLK weekend.  Sunday prices (more/better food/booze for guests) + an extra travel day!  Hooray for everyone!

    If it’s something like Labor Day or MLK or President Day–then that is fine.  Xmas, Tigiving, NYE–those are different and would defnintely be rude to schedule a wedding for unless there was some important reason for doing so.

    Post # 12
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @andielovesj:  “It’s not rude, but as a guest I do not like it.  There are very few long weekends, and those that exist have very strong traditions.  Every labour day I have set plans to go to a cottage.  While I would miss doing it for someone closes wedding, I wouldn’t be that thrilled about it.”

    This sums up my feelings perfectly. The winter long weekends (MLK Day and President’s Day) are different, but for Memorial Day or Labor Day weekends, I would be seriously bummed if I had to choose between going to a friend’s a wedding and keeping my own plans. Those two weekends are a big part of every summer for me.

    Post # 13
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee

    Holiday weekends are usually more expensive travel days than “regular weekends”- as far as lodging, flights, gas. I would say if the lodging in your area is already pricey than maybe reconsider. 

    Post # 14
    2774 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

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    @andielovesj:  My thoughts exactly.  Not rude, but as a guest I don’t like weddings on long weekends, especially Labor Day and Memorial Day.  Long weekends are few and far between, and I like to make my own plans.

    Post # 15
    2175 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t mind it as much if its a long weekend in the winter or fall, but I would not be a big fan of people taking over my memorial day, 4th of July, or labor day weekends. Those are the few times I go visit my family without taking time off of work, or get to enjoy a weekend with my boyfriend exploring our city or taking a short trip. I live for long weekends in the summer, so depending on who it was getting married, I might just decide to skip the wedding. 

    Post # 16
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    It bothers me when people schedule over holiday weekends because, typically, flights and hotels are more expensive.  Also, I have standing plans for most all holidays with my family, especially in the summer because we own a lake home and like to have big family gatherings for the holiday weekends.

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