Post # 1
Hi all! New joiner here, and I would love to hear some options on bolero options for my dress.
A little background – My fiancé and I live in Australia, while his parents live in Korea and mine are in the states. We initially planned a traditional big wedding in the states, but due to logistics with his family, it fell through.
We’re now having a very intimate (~20 person) wedding at an adorable B&B in New Jersey.
I recently purchased my wedding dress on a very short trip home (it was important to my mom to shop with me) and was a little rushed into it by the circumstances. I love the skirt and the color, but would have really preferred a more modest top, preferably with sleeves. I’ll attach some photos below:
Im thinking of adding some kind of bolero (like the below), but I’m worried about it looking too busy.
Would something like this work, or are there any other options to cover a bit more of my shoulders? I feel a little lost, and wish I would have had more time to shop around 🙁
thanks for your help!
Post # 2
I know many people suggest not covering your arms, but I’m self conscious of mine and want to not be feeling insecure on that day. I fell in love with a lace strapless dress so I go this tulle bolero and love it. I had never ordered internationally from Etsy but the process was smooth and the product was great. I liked that this style is fitted so to not take away shape from the dress but just to provide a little coverage. It’s super sheer though, but comfortable and soft, not scratchy. Hope you find something that works for you!
Post # 3
jaywalker7 : I didn’t even think of just doing tulle! That might work nicely.
im thinking of buying a couple different options and bringing them with me to my fitting. Unfortunately, I won’t see my dress again until a week before the wedding, which isn’t ideal :/
Post # 4
This one looks less busy under the neckline and it have sleeves
Post # 5
Plain tulle one would match the easiest can you order extra lace and make sleeves or a matching top out of it?
Post # 6
I hope this is helpful for you! I bought a strapless fully lace dress and added this lace bolero to add coverage and sleeves. It’s a lot of lace, but I don’t think it looks too busy at all! I definitely recommend trying a few options on with your dress to see what you like best. Good luck!
Post # 7
katie779 : most bridal salons and designers allow you to order extra matching lace from your dress for a cost. My sister did this to add a 3/4 length sleeves to her strapless dress. She has a large bust and didn’t feel comfortable not being able to wear bra with straps. It turned out great and this could be an option for you.
You could add a cap sleeve of lace and cut out the lace appliqué and add a few extra pieces around the cleavage area so the ladies aren’t so prominent. I think adding a bolero will add bulk and take away from the delicate nature of your lovely dress.
If you do go the bolero route, I’d avoid one that is high necked because it will make your bustline/shoulder/ neck area look short. It’s a really beautiful dress though and you look beautiful in it l!
Post # 8
Just have to say: your dress is a DREAM and you look stunning !
Post # 9
Thank you all for the advice!
Ideally, I’d love to order the lace from the designer and have the alterations done custom for my dress. However, I’m currently living in Australia and my dress was ordered in the US, and I won’t see it again until I have alterations done just before the wedding.
Does anyone know approx. how long it takes for sleeves to be created? My seamstress said she’ll have no problem adding an appliqué a week before the wedding, and I’d love for her to do the sleeves as well, but I assumed that would be pushing it in such a short time frame.
Post # 10
Would not do a bolero or add sleeves… I think leaving only a week would leave you with a shoddily put together product. I would order lace and add appliqués to change the neckline and maybe do a cape veil if you really want to cover the shoulders. Please note that I am super biased and while I love sleeves, I hate HATE boleros. They always distract from the dress and look frumpy and dated. Your dress is so pretty, I think you might ruin it if you try to create a whole new look.