- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Ok bees, I am not writing this to particularly ask for advice but more to vent….. I know that all of you wonderful ladies will most likely have come across this kind of thing before so I figured you would be the best source……..
Well our wedding journey started almost 2 years ago and we are now down to the 4 week mark! (squeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!). Mostly we have had a fantastic wedding planning experience…. until the past few months. It has been issues with guest lists, and location and expence and the cost of accommodation at the venu! I always thought the guest list should be the bride and grooms decision with a few additions from parents, but no apparently our nice intimate list of 40 people was missing 28! Then we have booked out church and reception venue 45 minutes drive from out home town (bearing in mind that right now we actually live the other end of Scotland from where the wedding is but booked it where we did to make it easier for everyone) and we are puting on coaches to take people there and back (no expense on their part), there is also the option to stay at the guests can stay over in a 5* country House hotel for £190, and while I agree that this is slightly expensive the response we have had was SHOCKING. People calling and shouting at us and asking how we expect them to spend that money. I have explain that we don’t it is just an OPTION which is why we are providing transport back home.
We are still waiting on arounnd 50 RSVP’s even though the deadline that we required them was Friday even though everyone has had save the dates, and I have drafted a seating plan which I sent the top table to my FMIL to have a look at the arrangement. We have been advised by the venu that the traditional seating here is when looking at the table front on from left Maid of Honor, Grooms Dad, Bride’s Mum (my aunt in this case), Groom, Bride, Bride’s Dad (my Aunt’s huspband), Grooms Mum then Best Man. I wanted to make sure that my FMIL was ok with that or wuld she prefer to be next to her son. Well she completely kicked of saying it was a ridiculous idea doing it that way and that it is not traditional so she doesnt know what I am playing at. We have now had to rearrange it to please her!
The worst part of this debacle is my Uncle’s Fiance. She has been an absolute NIGHTMARE. Every single detail she has had an issue with.
Firstly, my Aunt (who is stepping in for my Mum since she passed away) has booked a Lodge in the grounds of the hotel which holds 8 people. One of these rooms was for my Uncle and his Fiance but the rest were full. She then expected my Brother and my Cousin to sleep on the floor so that she could push two of the beds together for her daughter and daughter’s boyfriend! I do not think so, aside from anything else if we were caught doing that we would be charged extra. This cause a whole torrent of abuse and arguments.
The next issue was that she sent me a picture of a dress asking if I liked it. I said yes I do it was lovely but had a lot of white in it, however if that is what you want to wear I think it would be really nice. She then proceeded to tell my FMIL and numerous other people that the “Bride was stipulating that there were to be no white cream or ivory in anyones outfit!” Excuseme how did that happen? She had asked me what I meant when I said a lot of white and I respectfully said that in my personal opinion I would not wear white ivory or cream to a wedding as I feel that the bride should be the only one, unless she requests otherwise. Emphasis on my personal opinion of what I would wear. She made out that I told her she could not wear a dress that she had bought! The saga was made worse yesterday when it was discovered that the dress she actually bought is the same as the grooms mother!!! I contacted them both to let them know and passed over contact information for them to talk about it but made it clear that I did not care either way if they had on the same outfit, we would just keep them seperate in pictures. This was fine and both decided to keep the dress and I left them to it. An hour later I get an abusive text message from my Uncle’s fiance saying she was returning the dress but she was disgusted with me for my actions towards her outfit and that there has been too much control over color schemes. This woman is insufferable. A full argument for about 2 hours ensued to which my Aunty interviened and told her to get hold of herself and remember what the day is really about. Now my Uncle has told me I am a spoilt brat and that I should be lucky they are even coming to the wedding.
I feel comletely deflated about the entire thing when I should be extatic that we are now in the month I will marry the man of my dreams. I wish that people would just remember what the day is really about and be happy for us. Is that really too much to ask?
Thanks for listening Hive and sorry I wrote you a novel! Much love. x