(Closed) Lack of Hostess Gifts

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What about sending them each flowers and a bottle of wine with a “thank you so much for the shower!” note?

Post # 4
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I guess I’m a bad bride then, I didn’t get them anything either. Like you, I got them very nice gifts at the RH (including parents), so I figured that was enough. Plus, I think the hostess gift might be a cultural or regional thing, b/c not only have I not heard of it but I’ve never recieved a gift being a hostess. I think it’s a nice gesture, but not necessary.

Post # 5
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@geekily: Maybe you could take them to see the Bridesmaids movie, that would be fun.

Post # 6
47383 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think hostess gifts for bridal showers may be  more common in some areas than others. I have never received a gift for showers I have hosted. Cards? yes. Gift? no.

If you do feel like you want to get them something why not a gift card for a mani-pedi sent with the thank-you card?

Post # 7
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have never received a hostess gift, nor have I given them, nor have I heard of anyone else giving/getting one.

So I wouldn’t worry about them too much if you’ve never heard of them before.

Post # 8
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think a gift after the fact (thank them specifically for the shower) will be appreciated.  I’ve hosted a shower before (as a BM) and I never got a gift, and it didn’t bum me out – either.  A friend of mine gave a box of nice chocolates to her hostesses when they threw her showers, and I thought that was a sweet idea.  I gave all my hostesses boxes of really nice soaps (to go with a ‘shower’ theme).  If you don’t end up getting them anything, at the very least, send a card saying how much you appreciated the shower!

Post # 9
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think giving kick-ass Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts with a nice card expressing your gratitude more than makes up for no hostess gift.  And it may be a regional thing, but I automatically got gifts for the people who hosted my bridal shower – they put a lot of work into it and I actually handed out their gifts after I finished opening mine.  But I’m sure they wouldn’t be offended to receive something later, or else do the mani/pedi gift certificate that a PP suggested.  And on a side note – you are giving really amazing Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts!  I only spent about $45/BM plus I’m paying for mani/pedis the day before the wedding, but that’s still under $100/person total.

Post # 10
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I plan to give my Brides Maids nice Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts, plus a thank you card for hosting the shower. But I also plan to give them beauty treatments the day before the wedding – facial, mani/pedis, etc. I think more than the thank you gift, that will suffice.

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