- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I’ve been deep into planning our April wedding all summer and feel like I’m doing it all alone. My parents are helping us pay for our wedding and once we talked about their contribution they have been decidedly absent. We do live 1500 miles apart but I send links and photos all the time. When I call or e-mail my mom to ask her opinion or just talk things out she is confused as to why I want her opinion. On a recent visit to go to my cousin’s wedding my parents and I were talking and when wedding planning came up they said “we planned our wedding, now it’s your turn.” I don’t want them to plan my wedding but I do want their opinion! We’re having a Destination Wedding and my parents and us arrive the same day (2 days before the guests) and when I was talking to her today she mentioned that another family member was coming in that early as well. I was concerned about having to entertain and spend time with an increasing amount of people when we have details to finish going over and she said “don’t worry, we’ll stay out of your hair.” I quickly said “oh no, you’ll be there with me.” She was surprised that I would want her there and why she needed to be there but then just said ok.
My Fiance is great at helping with decisions once I narrow it down to a few options for him but my mom doesn’t want to do anything. My close girlfriends are even further away and are not married or even engaged (well my BFF has been engaged a total of 5 days now).
My mom and I talk on a regular basis, WR & Not Wedding Related, but its frustrating to me that she doesn’t want to be involved. What would you do? Anyone else experience this?