Post # 1
I’m getting married in September and I have no motivation to do anything wedding related. I don’t have a dress yet as I don’t want to go shopping ( I think we are going in January sometime) and I haven’t even thought about a photographer yet. My mom keeps coming up with all these ideas and wont stoppp talking about the wedding and my Maid/Matron of Honor is doing the centerpieces herself. The bridesmaids have already decided how they want their dresses and I have no problem with that, it makes one less think for people to bug me about. I think what is really holding me back is that I didn’t want this wedding in the first place. I hate having any sort of attention on me, so I dread the wedding day. I would have been happy eloping with just our parents, but both parents and Fiance wanted a wedding so I reluctantly agreed and have sucked it up ever since. The church and hall have been booked already. I just want to marry him already and have this wedding to be over with. I look forward to the day after the wedding so I don’t have to hear about it anymore. How do I find some motivation when I have none? I already had a talk with Fiance about all this, and we are still having the wedding. It still bothers me, but I have to live with it. Any encouragement or words of wisdom from bees who have been in my shoes?
Post # 3
I think the best thing that you can do, although it sounds counterintuitive, is to involve yourself more in the planning.
Sure, you don’t want to have the wedding, but you are- so make sure the elements are things that YOU like, not what everyone else is picking out for you!
Maybe if the wedding has more of your own personality incorporated into it you won’t resent it so much.
I’m not saying you’ll really *enjoy* it, but maybe you wouldn’t be so apprehensive, y’know?
Post # 4
Can you compromise and have a small wedding, with only the immediate families, grandparents, and maybe a couple of close friends? Like about 30 people? They’re the only people who really want to see you get married. For the aunt and uncles and cousins and more distant friends, it’s just a pleasant day out.
Post # 5
@rachelmichelle: I’m not a planner and hate planning anything. I’m a huge procrastinator so having to think about something so far ahead of time doesn’t make sense to me. Nobody really listens to me about anything anyway, so I stopped trying. My mom is the worst, always having ideas for things I don’t even care about, like the decor and favors. That’s why I’ve just let her have at it. Plus, I’m an only child so I think she just wnats everything to be perfect even if I don’t.
@paula1248: I’m an only child and he’s the first to get married so everyone wants to come. there is no way we could have less than about 100 people and that is a very low estimate. it’s probably going to be more like 150.
Post # 6
@wishingonadream04: Ugh, I feel for you. I’m an only child and my mom never had a wedding. Which means my wedding is her wedding. One thing that’s really helped is me putting my foot down for certain things, such as not having a sweetheart table. It’s one of the things I really dreaded about having a wedding in the first place. I hate it when people stare at me, especially when I’m eating. Try to plan things that will make you feel more comfortable on that day (good shoes, casual atmosphere, etc). The upside (downside to most brides) from what I’ve read, is that your wedding day goes by in a flash. *HUGS*
Post # 7
well since you agreed to the wedding, you might as well enjoy the planning. Does it bother your Fiance that you don’t seem excited about it? Because it would bother me! Maybe this is just one thing you have to suck up, try and get more involved and enjoy the planinng process and do it because it’s important to your fiance. Do it for him.. Anything worth doing is worth doing well.
Post # 8
[email protected] : Iam terribleabout putting my got down about anything do that won’t work plus I actually want it to just be hum and I no long front table @Mrswbs: its funny we really don’t talk about the wedding too much probably becauseeveryone else talks it to death around us. my mom is the one that brings it up and that leads to her and I having a fight because Idon’t want to do anything and she does