(Closed) Lack of motivation and desire

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I think the best thing that you can do, although it sounds counterintuitive, is to involve yourself more in the planning.

Sure, you don’t want to have the wedding, but you are- so make sure the elements are things that YOU like, not what everyone else is picking out for you!

Maybe if the wedding has more of your own personality incorporated into it you won’t resent it so much.

I’m not saying you’ll really *enjoy* it, but maybe you wouldn’t be so apprehensive, y’know?

Post # 4
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7739 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you compromise and have a small wedding, with only the immediate families, grandparents, and maybe a couple of close friends? Like about 30 people? They’re the only people who really want to see you get married. For the aunt and uncles and cousins and more distant friends, it’s just a pleasant day out.

Post # 6
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8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@wishingonadream04:  Ugh, I feel for you.  I’m an only child and my mom never had a wedding.  Which means my wedding is her wedding.  One thing that’s really helped is me putting my foot down for certain things, such as not having a sweetheart table.  It’s one of the things I really dreaded about having a wedding in the first place.  I hate it when people stare at me, especially when I’m eating.  Try to plan things that will make you feel more comfortable on that day (good shoes, casual atmosphere, etc).  The upside (downside to most brides) from what I’ve read, is that your wedding day goes by in a flash.  *HUGS*

Post # 7
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

well since you agreed to the wedding, you might as well enjoy the planning. Does it bother your Fiance that you don’t seem excited about it? Because it would bother me!  Maybe this is just one thing you have to suck up, try and get more involved and enjoy the planinng process and do it because it’s important to your fiance.  Do it for him.. Anything worth doing is worth doing well. 

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