Post # 17
@bbfyso: mmm cheese…. I donno if they do that, but I guess its worth a short to ask.
Sucks the canadians are crappy, I mean I thought we were known as the “POLITE” country, I guess in every aspect other than weddings?
I do feel lucky that the… 4 friends I got to invite outside of family ARE coming. And they’ve been excited the whole time for me 🙂 So even if I have crappy family, I know the select friends I have… are awesome.
Post # 18
@JessSeny: My Fiance has 1 friend he can do that with. I don’t really have anyone I can do that with. Theres one person that had been following my 1,000 crane journy on facebook and wanted to come but wasn’t invited… but Fiance and I only really saw him at a mutual friend’s wedding… MAYBE we could invite him? I donno.
But beyond those few, I’m not sure if we could. Is an idea though…
Post # 19
@Elky: Parent’s friends? Plus 1s for all guests? Neighbors? Old teachers? I know Im reaching here but it may be worth it just to fill seats if your going to lose the money anyway. And who knows, even if they give you $10. as a gift its better than 0?
Post # 20
@JessSeny: Everyone has a +1 already, Neighbors… well… Maybe I guess Fiance does like to hangout with the one Neighbor, I could suggest that to him.
Old teachers is funny 🙂 but we did invite the couple we grew up across the street from, they were like a 3rd set of grandparents, but they couldn’t come.
Thinking of some of my teachers actually made me smile though 🙂
Post # 21
@Elky ; Im sorry to read this update as I commented last week on your RSVP thread! :-/ But I agree with the other bees on trying to upgrade in other areas. And one way to spend that money might be adding lobster to the menu instead of salmon?
If not, you could always ask that the reception hall to gather any left over food and bring it to the nearest homeless shelter. The least they could do for you is deliver it since you’re paying for the extra food!
PS, every time I start getting stressed out I like to read this article… it really puts things in perspective! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/anne-almasy/resolution_1_b_2761883.html
Post # 22
@Lori2026: Thats a really cute article, didn’t really make me happy made me cry 😛 but then I’m confirmed for my Dr appointment on Thursday to help stabalize my emotions.
RSVPs are now trickling in… my side is doing great on that, only 7 outstanding! but 32 in total missing (families not people… people we’re still missing 84)
I should be happy that the people who want to be there will… but atm I can’t seem to get that feeling. Myabe because I still don’t even have my dress either? meh… was supposed to come in last week.
Oh and regarding the Lobster… that would actually create more issues, we have 2 deathly shellfish allergies (1 is my Bridesmaid!) so the only lobster is on the midnight/latenight buffet so they can avoid it entirely. Thats the latenight thing btw, Baby Lobster, Crab, Calimari, Muscles, Shrimp and then the assorted italian pastries and cakes and then the fruit. That also has two ice sculptures since somehow that became important to my Fiance to have an icesculpture at the wedding…
Kind of odd realizing how elaborate my wedding sounds when I type it out, I don’t really consider it that high end, especially given the wedding I went to last summer that was insane.
Post # 23
@Elky ; Oh no, I’m sorry to make you cry!!! 🙁 I hope things go well at the Dr.s and that everything gets worked out soon!
Post # 24
@Elky: Sorry. I had the same issue (smaller scale). I had to track guests down :(. A few families never responded at all to my attempts to reach them. RUDE! I ended up paying for 10 extra spots and invited some last minute guests. It worked out. The ones who completely ignored me never showed. Which was fine :), i just didn’t want to waste money. I paid for 100 and we were only under a handful. 🙂
Post # 25
@Lori2026: wasn’t in a bad way really 😛
Glad to hear it worked out for you, I think I’m having the same issue with one of my cousins, sent two messages and no response, I figure any people ignoring me are not showing up at all. I just hope we get some of the others back soon, 84 is a high number to try and fill haha
Post # 26
@Elky: It will work out :). Track those guests down! Enlist the help of family, that’s what i did :).
Post # 27
@trixiesrockets: Yeah my mom and Dad are contacting the other 6 of the 7 we haven’t heard from on our side (Dad’s brother & Cousin and Mom’s Friends)
And I divided FI’s side into two lists, one that was his Mother’s relatives and her friends, and then one that was people Fiance specifically invited and they’re calling them. There’s 6 RSVPs in FI’s list and 19 in FMIL’s list. Its the 19 invitations I’m more worried about as his parents are of the attitude “oh we’ll call them maybe on the 20th or perhaps wait until the 28th”
Post # 28
@Elky: ugh!!! i swear dealing with response cards is a rite of passage! lol
Post # 29
You have my sympathy! We invited 142 guests and ended up with 108 “yes” replies (including my groom and me), minus 2 no-shows due to illness. So our wedding was smaller than anticipated as well, but ended up being absolutely wonderful nonetheless. The people who attend love you and truly want to celebrate with you, and I’m sure it will be a fabulous occasion.
I don’t have many “add on” suggestions beyond what’s already been offered, other than perhaps an espresso/cappucino bar (if they can do that) or gelato served with your wedding cake (which we did and it was delicious). You might also add more (or upgrade) appetizers for your cocktail hour if you’re doing one. Take a deep breath and remember that on your wedding day, you’ll be focused on your wonderful groom and all the rest of this stuff will be forgotten!
Post # 30
If it’s purely number of guests, you could start inviting people that you didn’t previously invite just to meet the 200 minimum.
Sorry to hear about some of your family not attending the wedding. My fiance is from the UK (we live in the UK together) and we are getting married in Minnesota (where I’m from) and sadly his family can’t come because his mum was just diagnosed with cancer. Sometimes it’s hard to come to the realization that some family members won’t be at the wedding, but it doesn’t mean that they don’t love you 🙂
Good luck with everything hun.
Post # 31
@spring-bride: They do already offer the expresso/capacino which is kind of nice, I had forgotten they do that. Gelato might be interesting.
Thanks though and I know on the day I’ll not care so much but its hard to swallow what is looking like an extra 5,000 for declines.
Yeah we’re trying that, still isn’t going to make much of a difference though. I’m tempted to invite my co-workers but don’t want them to be insulted by the late invitation….
I really wish some of my family members had valid excuses like that (although not literally the cancer, I’m very sorry to hear about that, but hopefully it was caught soon enough! My mom went through Breast Cancer twice and is still kicking!) I’m just starting to feel that they really don’t care when I get a simple “no” from aunts/uncles and then from cousins “nah, I got stuff goin’ on” O.o
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