Post # 1
Ok ive been battling with posting this one for a few days now because a little embarrasing subject but do need some advice.
I’m 7w2d PG and since pretty much for 3 weeks now have not been in the mood at all for some love making with my Darling Husband. Essentially cos i feel too sick, nausea, low energy, bloated, sore boobs and no libido at all to do it. He’s very understanding and doesn’t pressure, but I know he’s getting frustrated, he’s got a high libido!
We’ve tried to get inspired but I also get freaked out that sex will hurt the embroyo, I know it doesn’t but still get cautious and can’t just relax. I also know rationally orgasms don’t afffect the little bean, but still…
Anyone else feel the same? What are some advice out there? I feel it’s important to still connect with your man and I’d hate not to be able to make love in 2 months (or longer), so what to do?!
Thanks wonderful bees!
Post # 3
I’ve read that not only are orgasms totally safe during pregnancy, it’s possible they’re actually enjoyable for the little one – the uterine contractions could be like a little massage? And baby gets a dose of the feel-good hormones that are produced. I have not shyed away from orgasms during my pregnancy and I’m glad because they’re often even more intense than before I was pregnant!
I admit I haven’t had the highest sex drive either, but sex has been extremely enjoyable when I actually get motived to do it. Just getting to it seems to be the hardest part.
Post # 4
@cjfs: Sex will NOT hurt the embryo. So don’t worry about that.
But as for not wanting to have sex for other reasons, I’m right there with you. We just did it this weekend for the first time in a couple weeks, during an all-too-short respite from my MS. I’m about 10.5 weeks.
I just am. not. in. the. mood. Why?
-changed sense of smell means Darling Husband smells terrible to me (won’t tell him this!)
-nausea x 1000
So… I hear you! I don’t have advice other than not to worry. I’ve heard that things pick back up in the 2nd tri. I’m just accepting this as a natural part of the pregnancy cycle.
Post # 5
Things pick up 2nd tri for sure!
Post # 6
Yeah. Not into it in the first trimester! I think that is totally normal. Most of the time I felt so sick that I just had to go to bed- not exactly a recipe for some lovin.
Post # 7
@stillme: Haha! Yeah, Darling Husband had such terrible breath the other night I could NOT (I felt terrible!) let him sit next to me on the couch. Then he threw up a couple hours later- I SMELLED his food poisoning! It was crazy!