(Closed) Lacking in direction at 30 after being ambitious…advice needed

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Line up the pro’s and con’s for each path.  Being fulfilled in life does not always mean making the most money; alternatively, being strapped for cash can be extremely stressful on a person and a relationship.  Is there any way to move laterally in your industry so you maintain the finances and flexibility you desire without sacrificing your creativeness?  In the alternative, do you get enough free/vacation time at your current job that you could volunteer somewhere that serves as an outlet to your creativity?  Sometimes making your creative endeavors your career is not a good idea because then it is no longer a hobby but an everyday job.  Personally, if I am bored at a job, I look elsewhere for a new job with more and different responsibilities to challenge me.

Post # 4
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Is there a reason you can’t do both? My thought is, have a small chocolatier business (or however else you want your creative juices flow) on the side, even if you just do it as a hobby. Maybe you could, for instance, open a small business that makes custom chocolate candies for wedding favors?

Maybe once you are able to engage in some creative activity and feel fulfilled in that capacity, your motivation for your current work will return. It will be much easier to finance your new venture maintaining your current occupation and, bonus, you get to stay close to your other half!

Post # 5
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@pearllily:  When do you plan on moving? It sounds like you have many skills and qualifications, so would it be possible to get a different job when you do move?

It could be something in the oil industry, or somewhere else.

Have you thought of being a consultant? That way you get some freedom, set your own rules (to a point), can be somewhat creative since it’s your own company, and can use the skills you have.

Post # 6
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It sounds as though you’ve been ambitious, but also that you’ve never been particularly focused. You’ve had 3 different careers in a decade! If you get bored easily, I think you should look for a field that lets you travel, change things up, change projects often, etc. Something where you get to travel/live abroad may suit your personality better in the long run than something where you stay put and give up your relationship. Maybe international development would be interesting? It’s a challenging job who’s duties change rapidly.

Post # 7
5885 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Can you find a creative outlet outside of work? Most people have jobs that pay the bills and find most of our happiness outside of work. It’s one thing if it’s sucking out your soul, it’s another thing if is just doesn’t make your heart sing. It’s very rare to find a job you are god at, but also makes your heart sing.

Post # 8
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@crayfish:  I agree with this. OP, it honestly sounds like you are just a restless person when it comes to jobs, and like changes of scenery. I wouldn’t give my relationship up for this feeling when you may very well get bored again in another few years. I would look into either another role at your company that gives you a bigger breadth of tasks so you don’t get so bored, or look into a creative business/hobby on the side like PP suggested.

Post # 10
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I recognize a lot in what you’re saying. This is my story: I studied English and Education and did a masters degree at the University of Cambridge in second language education. I absolutely loved loved loved my studies, and was a very good and motivated student. Initially, my course trained me to be a teacher, but the masters degree also meant that I could do something more, if I wanted to in the future. But I wanted some hands on experience first, so I applied for  teachers job.

Then I got a job as a teacher, and from there it went downhill. Within six months I was so depressed and unhappy with my job that I had to take a sick leave. After only six months! But I couldn’t have continued, I completely lost all strength. Worst of all, I lost my creativity, my spirit. Besides a linguist, I was also a photographer, just as a hobby, but I felt so jaded, my creativity was completely gone.

But the more time I spent at home, thinking about my next career move, the more I realised I should do something close at heart. I started my business as a wedding photographer. I have no formal training in photography whatsoever, nor did I have any experience, but I knew I would be good enough for it. I worked as a second shooter to build my portfolio and from there it started rolling and clients started to book me. I’ve now been doing this for 2,5 years and I ABSOLUTELY LOVE it. It is truly my dream job. It’s stressful, surely, because the pressure is truly on, and it’s long days (10 hours without a break sometimes), but it’s so worth it. I get to do what I love. I started out as an inexperienced wedding photographer (well, I did already have the photo experience, just not the actual wedding experience), and within 2,5 years I’ve climbed up the ladder already, now asking actual realistic prices and people keep booking me. Apparently, it’s working! I am still so amazed sometimes. I just can’t believe it, I created my own job!

In order to financially handle all this, I did search for an additional job, and found a perfect combination. I am also an educational author, meaning I write modules for long distance learning. I can use my creativity as well as my love for my studies in this, and I can do both jobs from home. 

I hope that next year, my wedding photography business will be big enough to solely rely on that job, also since I now live together with my boyfriend, things are easier to handle financially. 


My message to you:

Sometimes you just have to think a bit outside the box and be creative in order to pursue your creativity. You may have to struggle a bit to find a way for you that works, but once you do, you’ll be so happy. You may need to find a combination of jobs so that you can have a part time job in the oil industry for instance that makes financial issues less pressing, but also have two days a week available for your job as a chocolatier for instance. Get creative with your time and you might find a way that works. Having two jobs at a time demands good structure, and it’s taken me some time to get used to it, but now I can handle it quite well.

But seriously: Do something you love. Do something that makes you happy. It really really is the most important thing. 

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