(Closed) Lacking Wedding Planning and Fitness Motivation

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

How is your mood otherwise? Are you feeling overwhelmed? It sounds like there may be something else going on that’s keeping you from being your usual productive self. Even if there’s lots to do, you can still approach it one thing at a time.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I feel similar.  We have already put the date back twice and although  I have an idea of pretty much everything I want, I haven’t really set anything in motion yet.  I know people judge us for putting the date back (mainly family) but it is nothing to do with our relationship, fear of committement to each other, just the idea of having to have all the finances by that date, dealing with the logistics etc is really overwhelming to me.  Have you thought of perhaps hiring a co-ordinator?  It is an extra cost, but anyone I know who has gotten one has sworn by it, and also managed to save money in other areas due to the co-ordinator being wedding savvy.   We are looking at the pros vs cons of getting one at the moment.  I am not naturally a party planner,  even hosting Christmas this year just for family almost had me in a panic attack.  Not everyone is naturally prepared to plan a wedding.

As for the fitness, well I have always been a fitness procrastinator, am a smoker and luckily have good genes so I am naturally slim, so I can’t help you there lol.

 

Good luck, breath! And try and break down everything into manageable goals etc: this week I will reasearch after work every day and by Sunday I will know what hairstyle/makeup I want.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

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emyv:  It sounds like you’re in the process of a lot of life changes. Even if your social network isn’t always available to you, you can still enjoy your alone time and be productive. Find a wedding task that is most exciting to you, and start working on that to get the ball rolling. As for working out again, maybe you can try a new fitness class or buy a new workout outfit for motivation. Savor the moment!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Don’t hate me. In gender roles you sound like a stereotypical guy.  You don’t diet. You aren’t into planning. You might be a groom!   I’m teasing but you job is demamding. Your life is busy. I’m sure you’re beautiful. you eat what you want. Be healthy and happy. Plan you wedding as you both seem fit. You’ll be an awesome super laid back bride. Those are the best weddings anyway 🙂 Enjoy life and do what you want to do. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Motivation to plan/exercise is similar to libido and sex. The less you do it, the less you miss it, and conversely the more you do it the more you want it. Exercise actually gives you MORE energy and makes you feel more ‘in your body’, so the best way to get back into a routine is to just force yourself into starting it – once you’ve got the ball rolling, its easier to maintain the motivation. I think planning, too, can seem overwhelming when viewed from a distance, as a giant mountain that must be scaled, but if you were to just dive in and start working on some aspect that interests you – maybe you really like flowers, or design – I bet you will get pulled in.

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