(Closed) Ladies – How would you like to get engaged?

posted 4 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: How would you prefer it happened?
    My man should propose completely on his own initiative : (10 votes)
    34 %
    He should propose after loosely consulting with me : (14 votes)
    48 %
    We should sit down together and deside how he will propose : (2 votes)
    7 %
    I should propose completely on my own initiative : (0 votes)
    I should propose after loosely consulting with him : (0 votes)
    We should sit down together and deside how I will propose : (0 votes)
    We will exchange rings or other together, after having desided to get engaged : (3 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 2
    5167 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We just had a discussion about it and decided to get engaged. He gave me a ring and I gave him a watch. That’s it. I don’t really understand the “discussing how/when he will propose” I guess since if you have discussed it and decided that you want to get married then I would consider you engaged at that point, ring or not. I know a lot of people on here do that though, but the whole “engaged to be engaged” thing strikes me as a bit strange.

    • This reply was modified 4 years ago by  SithLady.
    Post # 3
    229 posts
    Helper bee

    We have discussed getting married and looked quite a few times at engagement rings. As far as I know hehas not bought one yet and has no proposal planned. He is EXTREMELY busy at work so I know that is dstracting him. I try to gently remind him at times but I don’t bring it up all the time.  My dream proposal would honestly probably be a night with the kids at his house and him proposing as were getting into bed. With him saying a few nice things about me and our love.  I would accept something more extravegant like a weekend away in a fancy hotel with rose petals,champagne and choc covered strawberries but I don’t think that’ll happen.lol

    Post # 4
    152 posts
    Blushing bee

    I want to be completely surprised… just what I’ve always wanted and my Boyfriend or Best Friend knows that.  He took me to look at rings (we were at the mall and he said “lets stop here” (at Ben Moss)) and we looked and I tried on a couple but I’m no expecting anything because he knows I want to be surprised.

    Post # 5
    2511 posts
    Sugar bee

    HopefulCatlover:  We had been together 8 years already when he proposed so we’d talked about it a lot. We both knew we were going to get engaged and married someday. We talked together about where in life we want to be and when we’ll be ready.

    From there he took his own initiative to ask what kind of rings I like. Months later he proposed at home, on Christmas, just the two of us. It was lovely! He knew I’d love a low key proposal though we’d never really specified that beyond the hypothetical “I’d hate if it was on the jumbo tron” lol

    Post # 6
    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I don’t need to know the details of how/when, etc, but I do think it’s important to know we are on the same page as far as next steps in our relationship.  I don’t want to be blindsided with a life-changing decision.  I actually broke up with a college boyfriend because I felt like a proposal was coming and I wasn’t ready.  He’s the kind of guy that wanted the surprise “romantic” proposal and I didn’t want something special planned for me to just say no.

    Post # 7
    1246 posts
    Bumble bee

    I told SO I planned to get married next year. He didn’t object.

    I sent him rings to choose from after he mentioned he didn’t know what I wanted.

    And now I wait…. He knows I wouldn’t want some huge grand gesture (and I know him well enough to know that that’s not going to happen). So I assume it’ll be something quiet at home. Or he’ll just tell me he picked up a package while he was in the US and I’ll put it on, and we’ll be engaed… LOL I Have no expectations.

    Post # 8
    534 posts
    Busy bee

    My Fiance and I picked a day for him to officially propose with my ring because he really wanted us to have that moment, even though I’ve tried on my ring and we’ve considered ourselves engaged for the past three years. 

    Plus, there are so many family events happening in the coming weeks he wanted to have a day where nothing would get in the way and we wouldn’t feel like we were upstaging anyone. Although I know the day and everything else, I don’t know what he has in store for us other than it’s going to be “romantic” and it’s going to “make me swoon.” Dear god I love him ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 9
    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: TBD

    Our engagement was a complete surprise. He proposed on a beach at sunset. Cheesy and cliche romantic, but perfect! My profile pic is a picture of it. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
    1378 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I chose that he should propose after loosely consulting only because I think there should be a discussion about marriage first. Other than that, I didn’t expect any discussion really. He proposed and took me by surprise – I knew it was going to happen at some point, but not how, anything about the ring,  or when. I preferred the surprise! But, he might have wanted to have run his plan by someone beforehand….because he totally froze his butt off the way he proposed – though it was totally perfect otherwise. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I chose that he should propose after loosely consulting with me because that’s basically what happened in our case. We talked about marriage beforehand, and purchased my engagement rings and his engagement watch together. I had an idea of roughly when he was planning on proposing – during our trip to Las Vegas – but I didn’t know how and exactly when he would do it.

    Post # 12
    973 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We had long talks about getting engaged and married as any couple should, but the actual propsal I totally left up to him. I had a say in my ring so I knew it was coming but I had no idea how or where. My only stipulations were not at a restaurant and not at a sporting event or huge public forum. And NO flash mobs or anything over the top. He nailed it And I was so surprised! 

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