(Closed) Ladies, how would you react to this demand from your fiancé?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Sounds like a true misogynist. Gross. It seems reflective of his future behavior towards you.

Post # 47
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Busy bee

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leeleeca2fl :  I would leave. Demanding, not asking that you are cleaning his home which you do not share because he is the man is the first step to emotional abuse. His father may know something you do not about where this behaviour is going. If a parent is willing to say this to his future daughter in law and his son’s behaviour is backing him up, something is and will be go wrong.

I hate telling people to jump the gun and leave. I already think people give up on relationships too fast in today’s society but I also believe that relationships don’t have to be this way.

So something is wrong and I hope you sort it out. 

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I was raised where women did the housework and men brought home the money. Both my SO and I were raised that way, and while I have no problem doing it. I will not sit there and have him DEMAND me do it. 

I agre with everyone! It sucks Bee, but it will probably be for the best. 

Best of luck to you. <3

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee

I would leave. If anyone ever said I needed to keep something clean because I am a woman- bye! I have no time for people who can’t treat themselves and me like an adult and equal. 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

As much as it is shocking when a loved one suddenly changes like this. If it were me I’d like some closure and leave. Maybe talk to him or talk to the dad to see what is really going on. I’m the type of person who needs to know to move on. If it was someone I truly love and spent a lot of time with, I’d like to know…

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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leeleeca2fl :  Bee my nasty Exs dad told me the SAME thing- he asked “why are you still with him the sex can’t be that good, I love my son but know him and you deserve more” I should have listened and saved myself 7years of heartache.

He was rude to you, is a mess, at his age he should be supporting himself and not smoking so much and actually since you are quite a bit younger he should be helping you, looking after you if he really wants to follow these roles.

You don’t want to hear this but GET THE HELL OUT! Don’t waste anymore of your time… Women that know and have been there and can see are telling you this. Marry him and this will get much much worse….

Post # 52
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Boy, bye. You are young and have a great/full life ahead. Fuck this guy. Get out while you can and get that monkey off your back. 

Post # 53
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2017

 Time to move on, I know it’s hard when you love someone. But, better to know now than be married and have to get a divorce. So sorry you’re going through this. 

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