(Closed) LADIES: I need advice! I can’t stop competing with my best friend! PLEASE READ!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think, as other people have said, you can’t compare your life to hers.  Things that might appear perfect may not be.  But it also sounds like you’re very dissatisfied with life.  I don’t think it’s out of bounds to communicate with your Fiance that he needs to step it up a little.  He should make you feel love and valued, and life decisions (living in his parents’ basement) shouldn’t be solely up to him. 

And I know usually people say that whatever proposal a guy does, you should be happy with it, but damn I’d have said NO to that until he could do it better.  And this is coming from someone who was proposed to at home, spur of the moment, and yet it was the most romantic moment of my life because of the feeling behind it.

Post # 18
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7308 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I definitely think you have received some great advice so far. If your life is not fulfilling to you, and it sounds like it isn’t, then it is your responsibility to change it. You have the power to make your own goals and set forth your own list of steps to achieve your goals. And you have the power to start following those steps to a more mentally/emotionally/financially/spiritually/physically fulfilling life. And if your fiance is the right guy for you, he will fully support you in your growth. He will encourage you to take the necessary steps to move toward happiness, help you figure out how all of the pieces fit together in the big picture, etc. Because that is what good partners do– good partners encourage you and support you to reach for your dreams.

Post # 19
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1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@imsolost:  Hi sweetie, as some other bees have said, perhaps it’s not necessarily your friend’s life that you envy but it’s your own life you’re unhappy with.  Have you ever tried to talk to your FH about being more romantic and showing you the attention you deserve?  He certainly doesn’t need to propose in a helicoptor to show that he loves you but I think proposing to you on the couch while his eyes never left the TV is absolutely terrible!  Please let us know if you’ve ever had conversations with him about his lack of attention and romance….

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