(Closed) Ladies, I need advice please!

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I continue with this relationship?
    Yes, after all love conquers all, I say go for it! : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Heck no!, Somethings fishy? She's lying! : (33 votes)
    77 %
    You can keep going, but be really really careful here. : (8 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    849 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    This whole situation seems fishy but I voted for the “keep going but be careful” because there is a small chance she could be telling the truth…but I do tend to be an optimist and to see the best in people.

     

    Even so, I would tread VERY CAREFULLY. This girl comes with a lot of baggage and drama. This may sound mean to say but are you sure you want to get involved with this? Just saying. At the very least, I would be careful. 

    Post # 4
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Run like hell! Seriously. You’ve known this girl for two months (have you ever even met in person though?) and she is full of drama and telling you a bunch of lies. She would rather be married to an awful ex than play nice with her mom that she doesn’t really get along with? Okay, that makes no sense. And there is no freaking way she didn’t know she wasn’t divorced – there’s paperwork to be signed with a lawyer present and she would’ve received something saying the divorce was finalized. I’m sure if you ask her about that she’ll burst into tears and have some sob story about being tricked – but the obvious truth to an outsider in the situation is that she is the one tricking and lying to you. And I’d be willing to bet she starts hitting you up for money soon so she can get out of her ‘situation.’

     

    And I’d delete your Native American comment while there’s still time to edit your post, because that is a terribly racist thing to say.

    Post # 5
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    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @2beeornot2bee:  Have you seen the show or documentary “Catfish”? It’s about nice, caring people who meet others online that are lying about who they are. 

     

    This sounds BEYOND fishy to me. Proceed with caution.

    Post # 6
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    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    The fact that there’s all of this drama and illness in her life makes me think you’re being catfished. I would just forget about her, honestly.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Wonderstruck:  I was thinking the same thing about the Native American comment. That will blow up FAST.

    Post # 8
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    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @2beeornot2bee:  “He is native american and from what i have heard before, this is how they are.”

    SERIOUSLY?

    Post # 9
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    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Don’t be stupid. Run far and run fast. And maybe change your phone number and e-mail address while you are at it. She sounds like a con-artist.

    Post # 10
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    987 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Yeah, the Native American comment is pretty disgusting. As for your situation, I’d run. This much drama already? No thanks.

    Post # 11
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    648 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @kittyface:  2nd. Not cool. When I read that part I was like “Uh oh, the replies are going to be hairy.”

    Post # 12
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    2712 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Agreed on the Native American comment – that was pretty racist. 

    As far as this woman goes, it sounds like you’re being played.  It’s been 2 months and there’s already a crap-ton of drama.  No good can come out of this so I vote get out.

    Post # 13
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    648 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Why bother being with someone who’s so messed up? If her situation is this crazy as she’s told you, imagine how much she likely HASN’T told you! Who needs it? Run like hell, buddy.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Nope! She’s lying. My friend has MS and had cancer, with three kids. She gets government assistance for her illness and because she can’t work. She managed to do everything on her own and didnt have to marry anyone to do it. It just sounds too fishy and I would walk away. And let’s say, it is true, why wouldn’t she take the divorce papers herself and pay? If he’s so controlling, why would she trust him to file and pay for the divorce. Sorry, but it all sounds wrong. 

     

    And doesn’t matter what race he is. My Fiance is Native American/Austrian, two very strong, out spoken personalities and he’s still not in anyway controlling. So no, that’s not how they are. You’re just walking into drama. 

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