Post # 1
About 2 months back, I met a girl online. We started talking and we were instantly attracted to one another. As I got to know her better, she started to tell me that she was sick and that she has seizures and cancer. My heart went out to her and one of the reasons that she told me that was to better explain her situation, you see, she can’t have a job and since we are older(later 20s/early 30s) she had no choice but to move in with the only person that was not married which was her ex at the time. She explained to me that she could not live with her mom since they clash too much which was understandable since they are so alike.
Well, she also has kids and she loves them very much and is willing to do anything for them, she told me that she did something stupid. I asked her what it was and she said that she ended up getting married to the guy she lived with last year ONLY to get her kids back and that was it, it was a favor that was done for her. Well she told me that she was divorced, but this guy is very controlling and has low self esteem. She had a bf before me last year and he knew about it, but he did not like it. So, I had this nagging feeling and I did do some searching just to be sure and I found out that she did get married but she did not get divorced, when I told her, she checked and got mad because she filled out the paperwork and gave him the money and apparently he just pocketed the money and was I guess hoping she would fall in love with him.
Well the **** hit the fan and now that has blown over and she told me that she is going to get the divorce, but she still wants to see me and I want to see her, apparently other people know about me, but i keep getting this nagging feeling that something is wrong and I am afraid that I will go up there and find out that things are not as they appear. I mean, she can’t help her situation, due to her illness…what should I do here? i’ve never had a situation like this happen.
Post # 3
This whole situation seems fishy but I voted for the “keep going but be careful” because there is a small chance she could be telling the truth…but I do tend to be an optimist and to see the best in people.
Even so, I would tread VERY CAREFULLY. This girl comes with a lot of baggage and drama. This may sound mean to say but are you sure you want to get involved with this? Just saying. At the very least, I would be careful.
Post # 4
Run like hell! Seriously. You’ve known this girl for two months (have you ever even met in person though?) and she is full of drama and telling you a bunch of lies. She would rather be married to an awful ex than play nice with her mom that she doesn’t really get along with? Okay, that makes no sense. And there is no freaking way she didn’t know she wasn’t divorced – there’s paperwork to be signed with a lawyer present and she would’ve received something saying the divorce was finalized. I’m sure if you ask her about that she’ll burst into tears and have some sob story about being tricked – but the obvious truth to an outsider in the situation is that she is the one tricking and lying to you. And I’d be willing to bet she starts hitting you up for money soon so she can get out of her ‘situation.’
And I’d delete your Native American comment while there’s still time to edit your post, because that is a terribly racist thing to say.
Post # 5
@2beeornot2bee: Have you seen the show or documentary “Catfish”? It’s about nice, caring people who meet others online that are lying about who they are.
This sounds BEYOND fishy to me. Proceed with caution.
Post # 6
The fact that there’s all of this drama and illness in her life makes me think you’re being catfished. I would just forget about her, honestly.
Post # 7
@Wonderstruck: I was thinking the same thing about the Native American comment. That will blow up FAST.
Post # 8
@2beeornot2bee: “He is native american and from what i have heard before, this is how they are.”
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Don’t be stupid. Run far and run fast. And maybe change your phone number and e-mail address while you are at it. She sounds like a con-artist.
Post # 10
Yeah, the Native American comment is pretty disgusting. As for your situation, I’d run. This much drama already? No thanks.
Post # 11
@kittyface: 2nd. Not cool. When I read that part I was like “Uh oh, the replies are going to be hairy.”
Post # 12
Agreed on the Native American comment – that was pretty racist.
As far as this woman goes, it sounds like you’re being played. It’s been 2 months and there’s already a crap-ton of drama. No good can come out of this so I vote get out.
Post # 13
Why bother being with someone who’s so messed up? If her situation is this crazy as she’s told you, imagine how much she likely HASN’T told you! Who needs it? Run like hell, buddy.
Post # 15
Nope! She’s lying. My friend has MS and had cancer, with three kids. She gets government assistance for her illness and because she can’t work. She managed to do everything on her own and didnt have to marry anyone to do it. It just sounds too fishy and I would walk away. And let’s say, it is true, why wouldn’t she take the divorce papers herself and pay? If he’s so controlling, why would she trust him to file and pay for the divorce. Sorry, but it all sounds wrong.
And doesn’t matter what race he is. My Fiance is Native American/Austrian, two very strong, out spoken personalities and he’s still not in anyway controlling. So no, that’s not how they are. You’re just walking into drama.
Post # 16
wow, lot of replies and some very strong ones, i did delete the comment, it is stereotypical, but not racist..i used to live near a reservation and I would hear all sorts of stories about how the men would treat their women, maybe i’m wrong who knows, but what I do know is that a lot of you are saying that I am “walking into drama” I don’t really see that? Unless it would be drama to meet her you mean?