(Closed) Ladies, need some guidance..

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly, it sounds like a lot of trouble. If she’s looking for “the bride’s backup singers” as it sounds, just step aside.

Post # 4
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Huneeey:  Have you talked to her about it? I would start by just having a conversation with her about the fact that you are trying for a third child and see what she says.


Congrats, by the way!

Post # 5
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are we talking about March 2014?  If you have the baby in June, March is only 10 months from there.  I have a hard time thinking you would be really pregnant for her wedding.  I think you should just accept it and cross the pregnancy bridge when you come to it.  

Post # 6
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I mean, if you’ve already ordered the dress in June and then get pregnant, you’ll just have to get a different dress. No big deal. If she doesn’t want that, then you’ll just have to bow out (though I think it’s unreasonable for her to demand that though, people get pregnant all the time and cannot schedule around someone’s wedding).

Post # 7
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would decline.

Post # 8
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i think most doctors advise you wait at least 6 months before TTC after a baby (allow your body to recover, get back to itself and risks of problems dropping), so if you follow that advice then youd be only 3 months pregnant by march

if you are going to try before that then id talk to her about it

Post # 10
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You do what feels best for you.  Don’t give yourself any added stress.  I think you’d be better off declining because you have a great reason to.

Post # 12
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It is a good thing you are considering these thoughts, I think most pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man don’t. I would talk to her, I am sure she has her personal own opionin about this situation as it is now. Being honest will get you farther. Maybe she will come up with an alternative and give you another dress, or maybe she will have you do another important job.


So step 1, talk to her. You will get a better idea of what to do after that.

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