Post # 1
hi bees ! i was dropped by this thinking,,,, all ladies in their 30’s feeling and experiencing difficulties to find a man who will love them back….
there’s a saying : if you reach ‘ 30 ‘ and still single ,, you will face hardships finding and having the ‘ MAN ‘ that u can call your own….
any bees ,, ladies of 30’s out there,, who experience or might have think of this??
Post # 3
I don’t think age is a problem. Ladies in around their 30 is more feminine than 25 years old girls (in my opinion).
Post # 4
I’ve never heard that saying. It doesn’t even make sense. We’re both in our 30’s and have never been married before, most of my friends didn’t get married until they were in their late 20’s or 30+. In fact I found as I got older a lot of guys I’d meet were divorced and they all told me they had gotten married way to young.
Post # 5
I can honestly say from personal experience, it is simply not true. I met my DH when I was 34 almost 35 and we married when I was 36. He is truly my soulmate and my best friend and we are so compatible that sometimes I simply cannot believe it.
You need to know who you really are as a person and what you truly want in a partner and for that to happen, you need to mature, grow and develop your self-awareness.
Maybe I was a late bloomer, I can honestly say that I truly knew who I really was around 31-32 years old.
Just do not settle in any circumstances, I learned from personal experience that it is simply does not work.
Post # 6
Honestly…you’re not going to get accurate information from a site like this. The people who come here are likely in committed relationships, preparing to get married, or already married. Those of us who are over 30 and also on this site are unlikely to be single.
Post # 7
@anna_met: When I was in my 20’s is was just a bunch of men wanting sex. In my early 30’s, it was still just a bunch of men wanting sex. At age 37, I fell in love with my soul mate, and have not looked back. I am 43, and I still feel the same way about him. I love him, and there is absolutley no other for me.
I have heard people say that life is over after 30. But my experience has been completely opposite. My cup runneth over so to speak. I am happy and fulfilled for the first time in my life. I could never love another man the way I do my soon to be husband. And in all the years prior to meeting him, I could have never loved another quite the same.
Love found me in earnest at at 37. When I wasn’t looking. And it has been the best, most passionate, deepest, sincere love EVER. So for me, life has just begun in my late 30’s.
I think perhaps if one was to quit looking, it will find you. We get so preoccupied with what is going on around us. That we feel like we are in constant competition. to get married, have children, have the coveted job. Life is not the same for each of us. I think life starts when you let go of expectations. Both the expectations of others as well as your own.
Post # 8
thank you guys for all your comments and my warm greetings back to you….
honestly,, all my colleagues and friends were shocked when i tell them,, uh yeah ! i am still single at the age of 30….
they used to tell me,, u should get married then,, you’re getting off the calendar….
i will just smile at them,, and thinking yah i will ,, in the right time….
but i was feeling scared a bit,, thinking is there really ‘ someone for me ?? ”
Post # 9
@anna_met: I found that in my earlier 20s, I had the hardest time finding the right guy. I thought I would never get married, ever. I didn’t meet FI until I was nearly 28. Has nothing to do with age — in fact, I think guys in their 30s and beyond tend to be much more mature and ready for commitment than guys in their 20s… probably making it EASIER to find a good guy in your 30s.
In fact, in my social group, there’ve been two cycles of people getting married. One was right after college – people marrying their high school or college sweetheart. Then there were year in our mid 20s where no one was getting married – none of the girls I know (myself included) could find a guy who was interested in commitment. Many (not all) guys in that age bracket are just looking for fun and sex. Then we hit our late 20s and now another big chunk of us are engaged.
Post # 10
@peachacid: I’m not so sure — while probably the majority of us are married, engaged, or soon-to-be engaged, I’m sure a lot of us have been though what OP is going through. I know I have – I might be just a tad younger than she is, but I had a really rough time of finding the right guy. Just because most of us bees are not single doesn’t mean that we weren’t single at one time, or that we didn’t struggle with finding the right man, or that we don’t remember what it was like to be in her shoes. I know for me it’s a fairly recent memory. None of us were born engaged or married 😛 Hopefully OP will get more advice and support than we might think.
Post # 11
OP you do realize this is a wedding website correct? Most women here are getting married or they already are so I am not sure if I get where you are trying to go with this?
Post # 12
You’re going to get a very skewed response on here, as most people on this site ARE getting married.
That being said, I was still single at 30. I met my FI when I was 31 and we will be married when I’m 33. First marriage for both of us.
Post # 13
@anna_met: I met my FH when I was 30. I will be 36 when we wed next year. If I had not met him, I would have continued to have a fabulous, fulfilling life as a vivacious single girl. I really think age has much less to do with it than say confidence, ability to support one’s self and truly loving who you are.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@anna_met: I’m confused. In this post you said you’re single, but in another post you said you were dating someone 8 years younger than you. Which one is it?
Post # 15
Oh geez I hope not!
I’m 30 and unmarried. We won’t be getting married for 3 or so years…this better not bring hardships ha!
Post # 16
Most of my friends/coworkers didn’t get married until 27/28 – 34/35. It’s rare around my social circle that anyone got married in their early 20s.