Post # 1
I am currently 17 weeks pregnant and thinking of ideas for a baby shower, maybe in September. My mom wants to use the back room at a local restaurant, where she hosted my college graduation party almost 10 years ago (yikes!). It would be a set party menu consisting of pastas, salads, pizzas, etc. Not positive if this is going to be the venue for sure or not but it’s what my mom is thinking and I assume she’d be the host, so obviously a guest list and head count would need to be run by her. My other option would be a gazebo at our local park, but I am thinking my mom likes the restaurant idea as to not have to cook, find catering, set up or clean up!
Over the last few years, I’ve been to many baby showers and almost all of them were co-ed style. However, my husband has always gone and been super bored and to be honest showers are NOT his thing. He hates them and the only one he’s gone to willingly without me begging him was his sisters. I’ve Googled it a bit, and it sounds like the new norm is for co-ed showers! Just wanted to see if ladies-only showers are things of the past and considered stereotypical / noninclusive, or if it would be okay to have one for ladies only? I am sure my husband would be eternally grateful if he didn’t need to go, and I don’t mind doing women only so long as my guests wouldn’t feel slighted by that? Including men obviously makes the guest list get a bit crazy so I am sure my mom would support the women-only concept for her budget too.
Post # 2
I think it’s still very much the norm, or has been in my circle! I’m young and all of my friends are too and we’ve all had ladies only showers.
Post # 3
It’s definitely the norm around here to have ladies only. Men will sometimes have “diaper parties” the same day (ie each guest brings a pack of diapers and a case of beer).
Post # 4
I’d say it’s 50/50 in my circle. Personally, I much prefer the co-ed showers as they tend to just be fun backyard BBQs but plenty of my friends have done the more traditional women only showers too.
Post # 5
temeculabride : I’ve been to a few. But the last two I went to were different:
My cousin’s was co-ed. But not many lads. Most of the women (me included) assumed lads weren’t invited and left them at home
My sister’s was girls only. But, her partner bought a few cases of beer and shacked up across the road at my Aunty/Uncle’s house (my parents and Mum’s sister lived across the road from eachother at the time) and hosted a bit of a lad’s get together with sports and tinnies. Lol. But, he’s a gruff tradie type, and wouldn’t be caught dead at a baby shower, so I guess that’s why it wasn’t co-ed
Post # 6
It’s 50/50 in my circle. Ladies only showers are still very much a thing.
Post # 7
I did a co-ed shower in August and had a baby-que. There were no games or anything like that just family, close friends and food. Only the ladies watched me open gifts while the men did their thing in another room, it worked really well. My coworkers had a ladies only shower for me as well.
Post # 8
temeculabride : I am having a ladies only baby shower at the end of the month as I don’t want to force my husband to attend that kind of party. Plus it would double the guest list to invite all the guys.
I don’t think it’s a problem.
Post # 9
I had a co-ed wedding shower and ladies only baby shower. In my circle at least both are very common and no one would bat an eye at a ladies only baby shower!
Post # 10
Do what you want. Ladies only is fine.
Post # 11
I have never been to a co-ed shower.
My good friend’s husband showed up for about 30 minutes of hers in the middle, which was planned in advance, for a couple of games.
My boyfriend has gone to a couple of diaper parties. They all show up with boxes of diapers and wipes and drink.
Post # 12
Mine will be all ladies in August. I went to one in January that was all ladies and have one on Saturday that will be all ladies. still very much the norm in my circle to just have ladies at Baby Showers.
Post # 13
Have a women-only shower if you’d like! It’s a fairly even split in my social circles. In my experience, co-ed showers tend to me more of a general party for the new parents and the women-only ones tend to be a little more structured and intimate.
Post # 14
temeculabride : most of the ones in my circle are ladies only, but the father-to-be still comes or at least makes an appearance towards the end. If nothing else he needs to show up to help you schlep the gifts home!
Post # 15
I’ve never been to a co-ed baby shower. Female only is the norm in my area/circle of people. Husbands typically have a “diaper shower” in lieu of a co-ed shower. We had our neighbor have one that was just the guys showing up to drink beer and bring diapers to get in… their daughter is almost 2 and they said they haven’t had to buy diapers for her yet (yes she changed sizes but they just exchaged for her size). Genius.