(Closed) Ladies that chose your engagement ring. Do you regret it?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you regret picking your own ring out?

    Yes

    No

    We picked together

  • Post # 31
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    Bee Keeper

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    SimpleeAmbur:  I am so glad my husband and I picked out my ring together.  The poor man thought I wanted a diamond, a far more expensive stone than the one I picked (iolite) and at the same carat size for good clarity and cut would have been twice as much if not three times more.  So in that case I will never regret picking together.  He picked out his own wedding band though.

    Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I picked out what I wanted. The first ring had unforseen issues, so I picked something 1000x better! I LOVE my ring! He has said that he would have not picked anywhere near what I would have gotten. I think most guys look at price and then choose what is the best looking to them. What looks best to them may be the simplest, it may not be what their Fiance would want. He did not have an insane budget, but I was able to meet all of my criteria with it, and get exactly what I wanted. Had we not discussed rings, we would have gone back to the store, returned his purchase, and then pick the ring. It was nice that we were on the same page (that I should get to have a say). This did not AT ALL ruin the surprise. He was able to trick me into thinking that he wanted to know for a proposal that was still maybe 2 years out. I was never waiting for a proposal, as I just thought we were discussing our potential future, if things went well. There was no stress or worry, just joy!

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee

    The ring that we both thought I would have liked ended up looking horrible and being uncomfortable. It would have sucked if he surprised me with that ring! Luckily, we shopped together and tried on a bunch of different ones. I love my ring now and he loves that I love my ring!

    Post # 34
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    SimpleeAmbur:  I picked out my ring, but there were several things that I let him choose so it would still be a bit of a surprise. Fiance is crap at buying gifts or picking out things for me. Even if I pointed something out and said “buy this for me” he’d still grab something else and swear it was what I wanted. We researched together and a lot of his input led us to moissanite. I scoured ring settings for the better part of six months before I ultimately decided on a solitaire. Then it was just a matter of finding the right ring. I finally found one I liked, but moissaniteco.com still let many things be added on or chosen such as: metal color–I gave him a choice of rose or yellow gold; stone size–I gave him a choice of 2 or 2.5 ct; RB or OEC. When I got my ring I was still pleasently surprised and I think he did a good job. He did end up getting all of the upgrades as he figured it’s what I would have wanted anyways. Had I let him pick, I’m sure I would have ended up with a miniscule diamond in a white gold setting that I did not want.

    Post # 35
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

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    SimpleeAmbur:  Honestly I had this feeling just the other night. For me it’s more that I wish I had been completely surprised with my proposal. I knew the proposal was coming and while I was so excited and it was amazing I think I’ll always kind of wish it was a surprise and completely “his” idea rather than me having a hand in the whole thing. 

    But then on the other hand if we hadn’t gone ring shopping together I never would have known what kind of ring suited me. The stuff I was looking at before we went shopping and the rings I liked on my finger were polar opposite. It was really nice to be in love with the ring he was proposing with. I think there are both positives and negatives. 

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee

    I purchased my centre stone, then worked with a local jeweller to design my ring without any input from my Fiance.  We have very different tastes in jewellery and this kind of thing was so fun for me (researching, getting the stone, meeting with the jeweller, solving design issues) whereas it would’ve been a chore for Fiance.  

    Also, what I thought I wanted from looking at pics turned out to be completely different once I started trying rings on.  

    The surprise factor wasn’t an issue for me as I knew we would be getting engaged for ages – it just wasn’t official.  

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

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    SimpleeAmbur:  I am very happy that we went together. I knew what I really wanted and he showed me what he would’ve gotten me. It seemed more like a anniversary ring than an engagement ring. I love love love my ring!! 

    Post # 38
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    Worker bee

    I had my e-ring custom made by a jeweller… I had seen something similar at a local chain store but it was low set and the quality of the stones weren’t very good. 

    So I took the oval sapphire halo from the ring i saw and added a split shank with diamonds and a dark sapphire that almost looks like a black diamond. I also had it raised high, so I could fit my band with it flush ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    My SO had his wedding band and mine all made by the same jeweller ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Now I’ve lost weight and my rings don’t fit so well ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 39
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 10, 2016

    My lady and I have very different tastes so we each picked out our own rings (though we did provide input to each other). I actually think it’s more special that way, for me: we honored each other’s choices and supported our individualities in a way that made us both all the happier to be together. ๐Ÿ™‚ I just hope I love my ring as much in person as I did online! Getting a little nervous now with so many ladies saying they changed their minds so drastically when they tried theirs on. 

    Post # 40
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I would have been happy with  anything! I love my ring though and I am so happy that we picked out together. I love my ring, and don’t regret it a bit. He did say if he had gotten me something on his own it probably would have been a plain solitaire which isn’t my 1st choice, so maybe thats why I don’t mind it so much…

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    i regret my choice, because i rushed my decision and there werent many options at the small town we lived in at the time. i wish i had of been more patient – and done a lot of research to see all the different types of rings out there and what i liked the most. 

    <div>i would have chosen a halo or a solitaire  . i got a princess cut that doesnt really suit my long fingers. oh well, maybe in a few years ill get an upgrade ;)</div>
    <div>i think if i had of said to my then fiancee to just pick what he thought id like, i bet id be happier now. </div>

    Post # 42
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

    I found a ring I fell in love with on etsy. And he surprised me and bought it for me. Had me absolutely convinced someone else bought it and my dream ring was gone. I don’t regret it, that’s a great story ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 44
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Fiance wanted me to pick my ring, and that was 100% fine by me. I would have loved anything he picked, but he said, “if you’re going to wear it for the rest of your life, I want it to be exactly what you want.”

    So that’s what I did. I don’t have any regrets or “ring envy” at all.

    Post # 45
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    HECK NO! He can no be trusted with picking out jewelry. Our tastes our very different and I really wanted to love  the way my ring looked.  He has said many times that he would have never chose anything even remotely close to the ring I did so it is a good thing I chimed in!

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