(Closed) Ladies that chose your engagement ring. Do you regret it?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you regret picking your own ring out?



    We picked together

  • Post # 46
    2585 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I picked out my original e-ring and my upgrade. I have exactly what I want and don’t regret a thing!

    Post # 48
    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: A very pretty church.

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    SimpleeAmbur: I picked it (with him along for the ride). He gave me a budget that was modest, but still more than I felt comfortable with so I looked for something well below that. Just seeing how uncomfortable he was in jewellery stores let me know this was the right decision. He’s such a savvy buyer when it comes to other things (he’s a bit of a technophile), but with jewellery he has no idea. He would have gone into a chain store like a lamb to the slaughter. Even with me shopping with him some of the advice we got was absolutely ludicrous. Australia isn’t known for its cheap jewellery prices but if you say “Our budget is $2000” they should be able to show you more than a few 10k white gold rings with a tcw of < .75 of tiny, poorly cut diamonds.

    We also have very different taste. Considering I didn’t know what I wanted until I saw it there’s no way he could have been reasonably expected to find it for me, that’s so much pressure! Do I wish he’d been more interested? Sure. Did I want a surprise? No, because I would almost certainly have been surprised with a ring I didn’t particularly like that he would have paid way too much for.

    Post # 49
    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    SimpleeAmbur:  My DH completely caught be by surprise with the proposal, and the ring he picked out all by himself! We’d never really talked about it, but I had briefly commented on how pretty a ring was that showed up in one of those online ads on the side of the webpage one day, and I ended up with something very similar!

    If I’m being 100% honest, I come and go on whether I like it best this way. I absolutely love my ring, and love that he picked it out for me – there is a special feeling about that. On the other hand, I do have my days (especially when on the bee ring porn threads) where I see so many gorgeous rings and think about the teeny tiny elements that I might have liked slightly different (like having a smaller halo, or not a split shank etc.).

    At the end of the day though, the fact that he picked it and loved it for me more than makes up for any fleeting thoughts that cross my mind 🙂

    Post # 50
    5362 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Nope, we designed it together. Its not finished yet but when we go in other jewelry stores the first thing out of his mouth is “I’m so glad we designed yours!” I did a majority of the designing but I always ran it by him and tweaked what he didn’t like. I can’t wait to see it!

    Post # 51
    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We picked it out together the day after we got engaged. I don’t regret it at all. I love my ring and he loves that I love it so much.

    Post # 52
    79 posts
    Worker bee

    We picked together though i did a lot of the searching and narrowed the choices down for my SO to look at. SO had a solitaire in mind when we started looking and i had a plain band or something more vintage style, but we actually ended up with a threestone! I loved the symbolism, especially because we’ve been together so long and the ring we have chosen didnt esp look different from the others we had tried but we both knew it was ‘the one’.

    I feel in a way he did choose it because I’ve told him i would be more than happy to find something cheaper (i do feel guilty about spending so much on a ring) but he loves it too and its the one he wants me to wear. 

    But i definitely believe that if its something i will be wearing on my finger the rest of my life then i would prefer to have some input. I think some girls obviously love surprise proposals and rings but i would much discuss such important decisions beforehand. 

    Post # 53
    496 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    We went shopping together.

    We already knew I wanted a shaped diamond, but Fiance was concerned about losing the classic sizing and beauty of a round brilliant.

    I tried on a few ovals, rounds and pears and we were both stunned by the pear. In the end I was so in love with it, and he agreed he loved it too and said that he would have picked that too.

    Very happy with chosing together, it was a wonderful experience to have.

    Post # 54
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We picked mine together. I found one I loved, but he wasn’t a fan since he doesn’t love halos. So we took elements from what I wanted, and elements from what he wanted and found a happy medium (similar setting but in a solitaire). I am definitely glad that I had a say in my ring since I was able to get something we both loved.

    Post # 55
    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    SimpleeAmbur:  My DH picked the ring with his parents. While his parents suggested a more traditional one, he actually went for a princess (square) cut diamond. It was the best choice 🙂

    I think that if your Fiance knows you and pays the least amount of attention, he’ll most likely pick something that is more your style. Besides, you can get comments like: “they said it was princess cut and I bought it because you’re a princess” :)))) he’s of course totally unaware of any diamond slang/charts/colours…. I would have gone for a colourless brilliant, but him chosing, made it perfect. The square cut does go more with my style.

    Post # 56
    579 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    SimpleeAmbur:  We went together and I basically gave him the shortlist of 2 which I liked. Of those I had a favourite but didn’t tell him. I then did other stuff while he purchased it. He picked my favourite of the two and nope I don’t regret it.

    Post # 57
    9575 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    He wanted a classic look as did I, so we browsed solitaires together and were wooed by the quiniessential classic e ring. 

    I am OBSESSED with my ring and can still say “he did good”. He picked the stone and cut the check! I didn’t care to be surprised by my ring- I wanted to keep it and love it for life. 

    Post # 58
    2843 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We chose it together.  I am glad we did.  I am going to wear this ring forever.  It should be something we both like.

    Post # 59
    50 posts
    Worker bee

    I actually had picked out something completely different before we went shopping together, but then changed my mind to fit into what he liked as well, because that’s also important to me. We have the ring, but we’re not quite engaged yet…. but no regrets, and I’m confident there won’t be any down the road either. 

    Post # 60
    4697 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I picked my ring, with his help. I don’t care for surprises, especially in the context of wearing something for the rest of my life. We discussed a budget together and I went out looking.  I don’t understand that concept of wearing something forever without having at least a little input in it..

    We make all of our decisions together, especially big ones. We share very similar tastes and wanted my e ring to reflect US.. Not just one of us. I’m blown away by my ring, and despite being involved in the process.. Was shocked to see it in person for the first time and still get giddy looking at it on my finger. It makes me happy that he wanted to buy me something I loved.

    He’s a great gift giver, but a horrible surprise keeper. A surprise ring or proposal was just not in the cards and I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m in love with my ring and am so happy about how it came to be.

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