Post # 1
How’d it go?! Last night SO and I were talking about us and our plans and I guess establishing the beginnings of a timeline when he asked if I would like to go ring shopping this weekend to help guide his choice! Now, he is uber traditional and when we’ve talked about it in the past he wanted everything to be a perfect surprise and to ask my dad’s permission etc. so this is a pretty big step away from that in his eyes. I’m really stoked to try on rings and hopefully find the one, but I’m nervous too haha. Was it awkward for any bees out there? Or just too exciting?
Also, I’m IN LOVE with moissanite. I look at rings on moissaniteco.com all the time and I’d honestly be disappointed with a diamond. However very few stores around here carry moissanite and what they do have is just kind of so-so. Any tips on convincing my traditional diamond loving man that moissy is the way to go?
Post # 3
my guy was the same way! but we decided that shopping together to give him ideas would be the best way to make sure we both loved the ring. have you showed him moissanite? and even though stores do not have moissanite, I still think shopping and actually trying them on is very important! styles I thought I’d love, I hated! so I’d look at what styles you’re interested in on moissaniteco and then try on diamond equivalents to see what you like! (don’t forget to try on some things you never thought you’d like too!) we ended up going the custom route and designing a band together. however, he’s picking the center stone and I have only seen the blue wax cast :] getting a feel for sizes is important as well, ct means nothing when it’s just numbers, you need to see what’s comfortable on your hand!
happy shopping! we had a lot of fun! :]
Post # 4
@snp0207: For me, it was exciting. My SO is like yours: he wanted to find the ring on his own, and surprise me with a wonderful proposal. Unfortunately, he fell for a control freak who hates the unknown (me 🙂 ). Shopping around was a little awkward at first. Before you guys go, make sure you discuss what can be discussed and what cannot. Budget and $$ is probably the biggest thing because that may be one part your SO wants you to be in the dark about. Try to be sensitive to the fact that your man is compromising part of his “engagement dream” to accomodate yours.
After very casually looking at a few mall jewelers, SO and I found THE ONE at a different jeweler (ShaneCo) and were pleased with the service and selection.
I, too, had to convince SO about a Moissy. The $$ is always a great way to first introduce the stone. SO’s biggest concern is that I was compromising for something I’d be embarrassed to wear. It took a few conversations, but once he realized that that was what I wanted, he was completely on board.
The one piece of advice to follow is: COMMUNICATE! Do not be afraid to tell him what’s on your mind, and encourage him to do the same.
Post # 5
Have you shown him any of the real life examples of moissy on here? That might help to convince him? But good luck!
Post # 6
We went spur of the moment when we were at the mall (we never are there). And it was weird because his entire family was there so it was like the “hey guess what, we’re next!” kind of thing.
He looked like a deer caught in head lights. He didnt understand anything and said they all looked the same lol. I’ve asked him if he will involve me when we finally do decide to get a ring, but nope. He knows what i want and wants it to be a big surprise. I dont intend to know anything about the engagement and i LOVE it. It will be a total shock.
I looked on my own and decided exactly what i want. So know it wont be difficult for him to choose. The only thing i am worried about is him getting suckered into a bad warreaty or a bad diamond.
Post # 7
It was exciting for me, the only awkward part was when he spoke to the jeweler about money and when that part came, he asked me to step away. I ended up picking out 4 different rings I would be happy with and I am leaving it up to my SO to pick the one he likes best, so I will be somewhat “surprised”, while still getting a ring I really want. Still waiting! Lol, this is the hard part.
Post # 8
It was pretty funny actually because I know enough about jewelry to go in and tell the worker all the things I loved and things I hated. I love rose gold but we ended up with white gold bc my SO liked it more (compromised and tried on the white gold solitaire with a rose gold band and it looked beautiful). He bought it the same day! I was very glad I got to pick out my diamond becaue he’s so clueless I’d be worried what he would have come home with. He leared a lot that day, namely what baguette diamonds are, split prongs, split shanks, halos, cathedral settings, etc.
Post # 9
We had so much fun! I loved being able to try on all of those beautiful rings and finding a style that matched me best. Darling Husband did ask my father for his permission to marry me before we went ring shopping and while I designed the ring I did not know when it would be ready and he proposed with the ring.
In regards to Moissy, I don’t have much advice. Maybe you could do some research and give him all of the points why you think it’s better. I know a lot of guys compare the ring they bought their fiances to rings their friends have bought. So your SO might just want to make you proud and if other people around you are getting diamond his ego could be hurt if others knew he didn’t. Just speaking from the opinion of guys in our circle.
Post # 10
We’ve lived together for 1 1/2 years and know we want to get married. He’s funny. He hates shopping and usually for Christmas or Bdays I send him a pic or link to exactly what I want and he gets it. He’ll usually pick out something else on his own but my main gift I pick. I like it that way – then I’m not disappointed.
So when we went ring shopping I picked out exactly what I wanted. He’d joke my budget was a Wal-Mart ring but when we finally went to a nice store I just picked out the setting I liked then let him tell the guy his price range so that would decide the size of the middle diamond. He got all the info so all he has to do is call the guy to place the order. The waiting part is killing me since I don’t have a clue when he’ll be doing that!
Post # 11
My SO and I have gone and looked at both diamonds and at moissonites. He was reluctant about moissys at first because he was afraid that it wasn’t going to be something I wanted to wear forever. We are both pretty frugal but this is something he wanted to spend money on. We looked for a jeweler that carried moissonite from the moissoniteco webiste, and we found a small family jeweler. We went there to look at moissonite in person and the woman there was amazing she showed us the moissonite they had on hand, but gave us a stack of information on moissonite, and said that if we would like for her to order some more in to look at she would be happy to and just let her know. I of course showed him all the information on it from the internet, and showed him all the beautiful picture of moissonite on the bee is well. We’ve decided to go with moissonite now, and I’ve picked out three rings that I like from the moissoniteco website, now it’s just up to him. So my advice would be just to give him the information you have found on it, and just have an honest talk with him about why you like moissonite vs a diamond, and so on. Just talk to him about it, what you like, what he likes, all that and then just let the topic go for a little bit so he can process and then he will probably bring it back up when he is ready.
Post # 12
My SO and I went ring shopping a couple of months ago. When we started talking about getting engaged and I mentioned wanting input on my ring, he shot me down right away. Then a couple days later, I think he realized it’d be a blessing for me to help him find the perfect ring for me. He apologized and apologized for shooting me down like that and asked me to go to the jeweler with him for ring sizing and looking at settings. I’m a simple girl and knew I wanted a very simple ring, and I was afraid he’d pick out something too busy for my taste. Most of you ladies woud probably yell at me for this, but I only tried on 2 rings before I fell in love with one! It’s a half pave band (very thin.. I’m not sure of the specifics) and I tried it on with a 1 carat round solitaire, though SO was talking about going a little bigger (!). All in all, it was a wonderful experience. Waiting is torture after that but I know its coming soon. I’m sure it will be a wonderful experience for you both.
Post # 13
Oh one more thing… if you’re concerned about taking away the surprise aspect of it for him, try not to be. He’ll be able to surprise you, even if you’ve seen the ring already. I have NO IDEA what my SO is planning for the proposal and, as hard as it is, I’m refraining from asking questions so it can be as much of a surprise as he wants. Also, he can call the jeweler before you guys go to tell him the budget, that way you don’t have to know that part either. The jeweler will be more than happy to steer you towards settings that your SO can afford. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 14
I went shopping with my SO for the first time yesterday and I was soooo excited about it. I wondered if it would be awkward, but it wasn’t at all. My SO was very comfortable in the jewelry store and as soon as I tried the first ring on we both got huge smiles and enjoyed the moment. We tried on several rings and I couldn’t help but be giddy about having an engagement ring on that he would be giving me eventually. It was fun, romantic, and exciting. We found THE ring and he shocked me by buying it on the spot 😉 Enjoy the shopping!!!
Post # 15
It was not awkward at all, and it ended up being a really fun experience for both of us. Originially, I wanted him to pick it out completely on his own, but he was SO nervous he would get something I wouldn’t love and since I’m the one who is wearing it, it might as well be something I helped choose!
Post # 16
it was cute and very sweet to watch him show interest and ask questions to learn about diamonds. WARNING: to my surprise my hand was shaking! (apparently its a lot more common than you think!)