ladies who have had threesomes…tips? first one this weekend!

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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3776 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Don’t do it.  There is a very good chance that this will open up a Pandora’s box that can not be shut.  I hope you reconsider for the sake of your relationship.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just go with the flow if it’s something you two are truly wanting to do.  Make sure everyone is on the same page as well with likes, dislikes, etc.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was just going to suggest requesting proof of a clean bill of health STD-wise, but it looks like youve got that covered.

Enjoy!

Post # 7
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473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have fun !

Post # 9
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3776 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I don’t think it matters what anyone else’s experience has been.  Sadly, this is one of those things that no one can convience you of until it is too late.  I hope it works out for you.

Post # 10
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Has anyone who advising OP against this had a personal negative experience with threesomes in their marriage?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

No advice, since you’ve covered the health issues and veto power, but I wish you luck! It’s not something I can see us trying in the future, but to each their own! 

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Pretty sure the OP wasn’t asking for opinions if she should do it or not. She was simply asking for advice or tips for people who have had them.

OP, no advice here. But it seems like you’re being very smart about this. I wish you the best of luck!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Boundaries. I’ve never personally done one, but I’ve got some talkative friends. πŸ™‚ The most important aspect it seems, was always have boundaries, know exactly what is off limits to which person, etc. I see you’ve taken care of the STD part, which is crucial. I don’t think it has to be the relationship destroyer others make it out to be as long as everyone is on the exact same page. Have fun! πŸ˜‰

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OP have fun! I think if you have set up clear boundaries and discussed what ifs then you should be set. As long as expectations are in check you’ll have a good time.

 @MrsFuzzyFace:  OP isn’t asking for permission to do this or why she should or should not.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@KatyElle:  not me personally, but I have a friend and a cousin who can trace each of their divorces to when they did.  Two accounts within my circle of friends is close enough to personal experience to me.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@MlleBrielle:  agreed. the subtle judging of the OP seems uncalled for. Not something I’d ever be interested in, but if you got a clean bill of health, and know what your limits are, I hope it provides what you are after!

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