(Closed) Ladies who knew the proposal was coming…

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 16
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

we had bought the ring together and I had a pretty strong idea of how and when it would happen (I was right!) and in no way did it diminish the moment or my feelings at all. I still cried and it was an incredibly happy and emotional experience!

Post # 18
227 posts
Helper bee

I knew when and where but not how it was going to happen. I also picked out the ring so I knew how that looked.

But I still cried when the moment came.

Post # 19
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We had agreed that marriage was definitely in our future long before the “proper” proposal, but that didn’t make that moment any less special for me. I was emotional, I was flabbergasted (because he had denied everything to cover his tracks when I figured out what was going on earlier that night) and I was excited because we could now make our engagement public and official to all of our friends and family. 

Post # 20
14 posts
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Walt Disney World

So reassuring to hear all you bees saying you knew about the proposal ahead of time and it was still a happy moment. It feels like a vast majority of people want to keep it as a surprise. I picked out my ring and know when BF will give it to me (on an upcoming trip) but it’s what works for us ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 21
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I knew it was happening, but there is just nothing like that feeling of seeing your SO get down on one knee and asking you to marry him! No matter how many times I imagined it, it’s SO SO SO much better than you could ever think! Enjoy it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
1270 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

How exciting and yes, there was still the element of surprise and was best day of my life so far! 

Post # 24
1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Knew it was coming. Knew what day it was going to be. My Fiance is not good about keeping secrets from me so he was acting strange leading up to it. My best friends are horrible secret keepers, and I love them (despite what they might think), were acting super weird and suspicious leading up to it… and then we went out to dinner the night before and another of my friends kept saying things like, “anything interesting planned for tomorrow? what are you doing tomorrow?” Dead give away. But I was okay with knowing.

Post # 25
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I knew it was coming too, but I hadn’t seen the ring, and I didn’t know the details.  But then he inadvertantly started to give away clues – of course, I was on high alert looking for them too.  For example, he made reservations at one of the nicest restuarants in Winston-Salem, the nearest “big” city (ha – “big” is relative in western NC) for our second anniversary, whereas for our first anniversary we just ate at a local nice, but nothing particularly special, restaurant.  So I suspected that he planned to do it that night.  But I was completely sure of it only after he asked me to help him decide what to wear as we were getting ready — he has never, before or since, asked me to pick out his clothes for him.  lol.  

Having said that, it was still a very emotional and memorable experience, especially since he went over and above on some details that I did not anticipate.  He had reserved the nicest table at the restaurant – it was next to a window with a beautiful view, and it was separated from most of the other tables in the area.  The waiter and Maitre D were in on the details, and they gave us incredibly good service — the wine never stopped flowing!  Also, unbeknownst by me, he had asked our friends to meet us at another restuarant afterward, so we had a surprise (for me) engagement party that night too.   The details that I didn’t know made a huge impact in setting the mood for the night, even if I knew the proposal was coming.  

Post # 26
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I knew it was coming but I didn’t know the specifics.

We went shopping for rings once and he knew I prefered solitaires but he wanted to be the one to pick it out.  He took my 2 best girlfriends with a second time to look at specific diamonds and he picked out a princess.  The jeweler chipped the one he had picked out trying to set it, so they ordered some more in.  He didn’t like any of them, so he ordered one through Blue Nile and had it set.  I was kept abreast of all this by my friends because I normally hate surprises.  We went shopping in May and he finally had the diamond set the end of June/beginning of July.  I was told he was incredibly picky with the diamond.

I had been engaged previously and my ex proposed on the 4th of July.  My husband wanted to do it then but my friend told him about my ex, so naturally he did not want to propose on the same day. Plus, my good friend (who went with him shopping) was getting married at the end of July, so he didn’t want to steal her thunder. He proposed the first Saturday in August.  I was still shocked because his actions and demeanor did not indicate that he was going to propose that day.  Even though he knew I knew it was coming, he said he was still nervous as hell. 

Don’t worry, it will still be amazing.  I still get goosebumps when I remember that feeling.

Post # 27
44 posts

i knew exactly when it was happening. i chose not to let on, but honestly it felt like a true surprise even though i was so aware of things leading up to it. my reaction was genuine awe and happy tears and for me (personally) knowing didnt ruin anything about the moment for me. 

the way i see it, you wont know his exact words or either of your reactions until you are in the real moment so it is going to be special no matter what. 

enjoy these exciting times ahead ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 28
33 posts
  • Wedding: November 2016

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kcoast:  I’m kinda in the same boat as you. I know my boyfriend went ring shopping with his dad and that he bought one. I know he can’t pick it up until April 22nd.  And my boyfriend is really bad at keeping things a secret from me so i figure he will actually pop the question the night of the 22nd or on the 23rd. I also know where he got the ring from and how much it cost. So because i am so curious i have been looking at the website looking in that price point but there are like hundreds so i have no idea what it will look like lol

Post # 29
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I knew my proposal was coming. We’d picked the ring out together and were going on a big trip together. Plus, he’d hinted about things beforehand (asking if I liked hot air balloon rides, telling me to bring a nice dress on the trip, etc). However, the day, time, and location (on a hike next to the ocean) was a complete surprise. The moment was perfect.

Basically, the entirity of the proposal didn’t need to be a surprise to be an amazing moment between us. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 30
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I got engaged on Saturday!! It wasn’t a surprise at all, but that didn’t make it any less special. My fiance is still in school (I graduated a semester early in December). I drove up this weekend to “visit,” knowing exactly what was going to happen because we definitely discussed it (in detail) beforehand 

I knew it was coming and I’d (technically) seen the ring ahead of time. He got his mom’s diamond reset and I saw the ring about a year ago before it was reset, when it was yellow gold. I was so excited because it was already almost perfect back then! 

We decided together to get engaged on a hike at one of our favorite state parks near school. It’s such a beautiful path and it was gorgeous this weekend….

Which meant that the park was unbearably crowded. I got so worried that we would have to go somewhere else, but he DID surprise me a little bit! 

The first time we went to that park, a few years ago, we left the path and climbed up this huge rock (ADVENTURE) and sat up there and talked for a few hours. 

This time around, he searched for the rock again and convinced me to climb up. I climbed up first, with him right behind me, and when I reached the top and turned around, he was on his knee. It was perfectly private up on the rock. There was a road somewhat above, but no cars at the moment of the proposal… until an ATV roamed by a few seconds after I gave a wholehearted “yes!” I wanted the moment to be private, but the shout of congratulations and the honk from the couple on the ATV made the moment even more special!

We sat and talked again for a while on our rock, and then we decided to carve our initials into a tree that was growing out of it. 

It was such a beautiful day and I’m no less excited having known it was coming ๐Ÿ™‚ I think it was even more perfect because we got to choose how to do it together! 


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