(Closed) Ladies who spend a lot of time away from DH

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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4886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My fiance is a national trainer for a large company and he’s gone M-F about 42ish weeks of the year.  I have a shop that I work at on Saturdays, so that really only leaves us with two short evenings and Sundays to hang out.   It was a rough transition, and sometimes it still sucks, but for the most part we’ve gotten used to it.  I work weird hours and it’s kinda nice to just come home and do whatever I want (which usually involves chick flicks and really unflattering sweat pants).

I have a few hobbies I’ve picked up since  we started these schedules and they keep me entertained and busy, so that’s helpful.  It’s not so bad for the first few days of the week but by the time Friday comes around I’m definitely ready for him to come home!!!

Post # 18
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13095 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My Darling Husband is also a consultant and he travels every week Mon-Thurs.  Honestly, I really don’t mind it that much.  I’m at work all day on those days anyways so the only times I don’t get to see him are 3 evenings a week (Mon, Tues, and Wed).

I enjoy having the “me” time to shop, play with the dog, read, watch my TV shows that Darling Husband has no interest in, take long relaxing bathes, etc.  Having time to focus on myself during the week allows me to be able to focus on him that much more when he’s home for the weekend.

@piglet_625: “I realized really quickly that I had two options:  to be miserable, or to make the most of it.”

Amen!

Post # 19
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18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband was traveling a lot for work a couple years ago and it looks like he will be starting that again soon.  It was tough before when I wasn’t working because I was home most of the time even though I had school at night.  It will probably be easier now with work and friends to hang out with.  It’s tough but you just have to chose to make the most of the time you have together.

Post # 20
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5283 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

While my situation is a bit different then yours (similar schedules, but husband just got promoted and is traveling quite a bit more, so he is OFT & I started a new job where I travel some as well) so we literally have to pull out our calendars and schedule dates together.

But we have a routine where we go on a romantic date right before he leaves, and a date right after he gets back; and when he is here we don’t really go out w/o each other.

It is tough, but husband brought up an interesting point. We rarely argue and we really value the time we have together, it’s like we are back in the early dating stage that is fun & exciting w/ all the butterflys 🙂 versus the routine we were in where we were so used to each others company everyday.   

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