- 7 years ago
in 2008 when i was pregnant with my son, i joined the Medhelp boards. on there, and on the phone and FB i’ve been SUPER tight with another member. our sons are only 10 days apart, and her new baby, will be exactly 3 years younger than our other boys. so, i’m gonna give a lil back story, and ask for input.
she and her bf live with her son. her bf’s BFF is married and uses their guest room to screw his mistress pretty much. well, my friend is friends with this girl, and has tried to raise hell about how wrong it is for them to be screwing around, and them doing it at her bf’s house(it is bf’s house, they arn’t together, but she and her son live with him)…well, all of a sudden, the girl is on sugar daddy/momma websites, and taking trips, and when my friend asks how it is going, and asks about the married guy, this chick all of a sudden starts planning a baby shower.
they invited over 30 people, only 6 are coming that we know of. i myself, am actually going to dallas the day before, so she and i can finally meet. the shower for SOME reason is supposed to be 4 freakin hours long, from 2-6, on a SUNDAY, the day before school starts!!
my friend is telling me the girl planning the shower, has no money, no car and isn’t sure if she can pull the shower off….A WEEK BEFORE THE SHOWER.
my friend is the one who is doing all the legwork, and to me, it actually comes off as my friend is planning the shower, which is why i think she keeps getting excuses as to why people can’t come. we all kno, that for 99% of the world, holding a shower in your honor is a NO NO, even people who don’t know anything about etiquette, kno that!
right now she is texting me, wanting to cancel. her parents are both dead, yet she is VERY close to her Ex’s mom. i just feel horrible. because this other girl is completely slacking, is lazy in general and doesn’t work it seems…
is it bad if i were to try and “fix” this? i don’t think it helps, that A)everyone thinks she is planning her shower, and B)it seems everyone knows this other girl is pretty um, wishy washy…
my friend is a worrier, and i would absolutely HATE to find out she is having to get money off her bf to finish this b/c the other girl is just not caring…
is there anything else i can do??? my friend is from a small town, they JUST got a walmart lol…this other girl, when i asked about my friends registry, she was like “oh, well yea she registered there”…when i asked my friend, she was said “they opened our walmart in july, and wtf is a registry?” she didn’t even KNO what a registry is, this girl never mentioned, even when WEEKS ago i inquired/brought to her attention!!