(Closed) Ladies~need your advice!!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If he won’t talk marriage after 3 years of being engaged then I think it’s time to walk.  Either you walk and find someone better and ready to be married, or he realizes what he’s lost and he comes back ready for marraige.  Secondly, is it possible he’s depressed? 

Post # 4
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Really to me, I have alarm bells going on in my head.  He doesn’t seem ready for marriage and I’m worried that he keeps you from your friends.  It doesn’t really seem like the two of you have much of a relationship anymore.  I agree about needing to walk, I think an ultimatum will just possibly force him to do something he isn’t ready for and won’t help your relationship.

Post # 5
Member
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Appreciate what you had as a learning experience and move on. If he’s unwilling to talk about it, it’s because he doesn’t want it, but he doesn’t have the courage to say so. Go find someone who can’t wait to be with you. You deserve it. 

Post # 7
Member
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree with the PP, you should just walk.  You deserve a man that wants to make a commitment to you and is not isolating you.  You need the man he originally was before the proposal.  Give both of you a break and see where things are.  Good luck!!

Post # 9
Member
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Very sorry for you to go through this, and I’m sure it would be tough for you to call it off.  However, it does sound like you are roommates, and I still think you should walk away.  Have you suggested that he seek counseling for his depression?  If he won’t help himself then there’s nothing you can do. 

Post # 15
Member
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hm that’s a tough one. I’m sorry you’re having to be in that position. πŸ™ But you sound like you have a really good grip on the possible reality of the situation and are trying to make proactive steps to coming to a head. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that you can get he ball rolling in one direction or the other. We’re here to support you either way!

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