- 8 years ago
Hey there everyone. I’m brand new – glad I found this forum. I googled “will he propose” or “signs he’ll propose” and found you wonderful people. Glad to see other ladies in waiting. Loved Mr. Bee’s advice. Isn’t it wonderful how knowing there are others out there makes you feel better?!
I have been dating my Boyfriend or Best Friend for 1 year and 8 months. I know he loves me, and I love him dearly. We have discussed moving in together but I don’t want to be the one to mention the “M” word. It’s been mentioned “casually” – in passing conversation. Now, he seemed very commitment-phobic a year ago, but things have changed and if you will indulge me in the “things” I’m considering signs I would thoroughly appreciate it. Any comments welcomed.
1 – he now refers to “we” instead of “me” when talking about almost anything. Future plans, pretty much anything. Another example if he’s writing to his sister he says “wish we were there.” This might sound like nothing, but this is different than in the beginning.
2 – lately I’ve noticed him being more “frugal” (to put it nicely) than usual. He spends money on our dates and doesn’t expect me to pay anything, but I’ve noticed a very definite difference.
3 – back i the fall – I hadn’t filed my final papers for my divorce. Just out of pure laziness, my ex and I had been apart a while. He said , “I think you need to go ahead and take care of that.” So, I did.
4 – he mentions the “m” word now whereas before I’m thinking it would have choked him. For instance: Is your mom going to ask me when we are going to get married?”
5 – he is spending less time at events with the boys. He never has done the bar thing – I’m talking hobby stuff.
6 – we’re together weekends mostly. Hardly ever during the week because we live an hour apart and both have jobs. It seems to be getting harder and harder for him (and me for sure!) to leave each other on Sundays.
7 – I’ve been introduced and adored by his family.
So – I am taking the stance of waiting, not nagging, and enjoying the relationship. But, I have to say I’m getting excited and a little frustrated at times thinking it’s going to happen. We went on our first vacation together (not counting visiting relatives over Holidays) a couple months ago. It went FANTASTIC!! I thought he might do it then. Nope. Then he planned this ultra-expensive meal at a local restaurant after we got back and made some comments that made me think it might happen that night. Didn’t – thought it would. He actually said, “well, we’re going on two years now.” I thought that was it – nope.
But – we’re having a blast.
Do these sound like hints. Please excuse my obsessiveness. But that’s why I’m here – I can talk about it here.