(Closed) Laid off for a year

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry for your hard times in your relationship.  It is really hard for guys to be out of work because so much of their self esteem is tied to the fact that they are breadwinners.  Honestly, I would try to not talk about the fact that he doesn’t have a job right now.  Maybe you could ask him to do more around the house so he doesn’t feel useless?  Keeping up a house is a part time job at least and it is work, even if he doesn’t get paid for it.

Post # 4
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I am totally going through this right now (FI is full-time employed, I am not).  I found part time work in September of last year, but I’ve been out of school for over a year now and still haven’t found anything substantial.  I was really depressed and would mope around most days, but I got some great advice from friends who told me to start volunteering so I’d have something to do during the days.  That’s what I’ve been trying to do, and it’s definitely helped with how I’m feeling.  It also helped to take one day a week (usually the weekends when Fiance is home) off from job-searching.  It can really be deflating to apply to job after job and not hear anything, or have countless interviews and still no job offers.  It’s important to keep your mind on what makes you successful in your own life, and not to simply focus on a job (I know, way easier said than done). 

I know it’s frustrating, but a lot of people are going through this right now so at least we all know it’s not our lack of job skills.  Good luck to you and your FI!

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