(Closed) laid off from job, wedding excitement ruined

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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645 posts
Busy bee

@KPcosmos: I was laid off from my job a month after getting engaged. It sucks but just keep looking for a job… also if anything take this time to spend wedding planning, meeting vendors, and getting to know what you really want for your wedding. 

Post # 4
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Don’t let the job search get you down. You have truly been blessed to find your future mate and you cannot ruin the best year of your life feeling sad about a job. If you ask me finding a job is a lot easier than finding a husband, so you will be just fine. You only get one wedding–you will probably have lots of jobs.

Best of luck!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry you’re going through this, but it will get better!

My Fiance lost his job in June, he was laid off due to budget cuts (he was a teacher) and he wasn’t able to find a teaching job. Ohio’s economy is pretty much awful for any job right now but especially teachers. I’m in grad school and I work part time as a pre-school teacher, so I get where you are coming from. When he lost his job, it took the joy out of everything for a long time. But he is now opening up his own buisness and it’s okay now.

Don’t let it get you down! You’ll find a new job soon and just remember that EVERYTHING happens for a reason! I wish you the BEST of luck!

Post # 8
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645 posts
Busy bee

@KPcosmos: Hey… I didn’t even realize that we were date twins! Congrats to you too! Only 108 days left! 

Post # 9
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@KPcosmos: First let me start by saying that I am so sorry that you are dealing with this right now! I have experienced a layoff and am about to experience another one ๐Ÿ™‚ Also, when we first got engaged, my Darling Husband was had gotten laid off 4 days after we got engaged. It made discussing ANYTHING wedding related such a hard and painful thing to do. We were so devastated and worried that we wouldn’t be able to have a wedding at all, let alone continue paying for things. BUT it all worked out and came together BEAUTIFULLY! However, what I did during that time was research, research, and research a ton of vendors and various ways to save money but still have a great day. It was well worth it,  It’s how I found the Bee. However, all things worked out and we were blessed. Darling Husband found a new position in his field exactly 3 months later and we went into full swing again with planning.

I am about to face another layoff come the end of the year. I found out the day before Thanksgiving I will be laid off at the end of this year. At first, I was nervous, but I will enjoy the time off and I will remain positive and hopeful. I think because I’ve experienced this before in 2008 and was also only out of work for about 2.5 months myself that I have some optimism. Also, I’ve always done some Consulting work on the side so it will keep me connected to my profession. But most importantly I don’t have to face this alone, I have Darling Husband and neither will you have to face this alone.  I know it feels crappy right now and you will experience a range of scary emotions (for me it was:anger, fear, rejection, sadness, uncertainty,etc). BUT I can assure you that it will definitely work out for you in the end, and you will come out stronger, wiser, and much more resourcesful! Like a PP said,use the time off to focus on wedding planning. Also, you can still stay fresh in your profession by networking, attending seminars/workshops/events for free, and volunteering. Aside from helping other people you may meet someone and land a new opportunity. I plan on doing all of the above. I promise you those things will keep you upbeat and in great spirits, and it will keep you inspired in spite of all the emotions that you will face. It’s okay that you’ve cried, in a sense you are mourning a loss.  You will have good days and bad days and that’s okay. Just know, pretty please ๐Ÿ™‚  that you will be okay! Speaking from experience it can and will get better and you will find new opportunity! Keeping you and your Fiance in my prayers. Hang in there and be encouraged!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

At least your wedding is still on. I’m jobless and might have to push back our wedding.

Post # 13
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am so sorry that you lost your job. I got laid off last year and I remember how depressed it made me until I found a new one and I didn’t have a wedding to plan. It is good that your Fiance is so supportive because that is what got me through the rough patch, family and friends. My only advice is cheesy, don’t give up, something will come along and when the job search is getting you down too much take  little break to focus on the wedding or this holiday season! Best of luck!!

Post # 14
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416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Trust me many people are dealing with the same thing. My Fiance and I went ring shopping in the beginning of Oct. I didnt seee anything I wanted so I had my ring and band custom made, at the end of Oct. my fiancee was laid off without any notice. Needless to say, all wedding plans and ring was put on hold. I understant the uneasy feeling about not having the day you planned but the way we looked at it as a test. A test to see how we deal with uncontrolled problems. Your wedding day is just one day, but your marriage is forever. Dont look at it as if you dont have everything for your special day, look at it as you have exactly what you need for a lifetime.

So dry your tears and get back on your horse. Cut back on some of your cost do a couple DIY project and just be grateful you have someone in your corner.

Post # 15
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@KPcosmos: I have to say looking back on it, there were times that I could have done better about balancing it. Please don’t judge me ๐Ÿ™‚ but at times I feel like I was a lttle obsessive about finding/applying to positions. There were a few days that I literally worked full time hours just scouring the internet to find and apply for positions. One day in particular, I was so tense and sore from just sitting at the computer that I FORCED myself to get up and get out for a bit. Those particular days was when I felt the most vulnerable, scared, and desparate. I learned that while I was searching, any time I started to feel nervous, anxious, overwhelmed, etc that it was a good time to put the laptop away, take a few deep breaths, and get out of the house for a bit.  The last month of searching and interviewing I made it a point to wake up early, get showered and dressed and head out. Even if it was to run errands or to head to the bookstore, I had to do something. The one thing that I wish I had done more often was to get out to workshops/seminars/events,etc. I found that occupying my time with outings/events that were free and kept me fulfilled was helpful for mind, body, and spirit. This is what I will do differently this time. I’ve already started to re-dedicate myself to this and it is helping!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oof, I feel your pain. I was fired a week before my wedding, the day after my birthday.

I was crying through all the last-minute preparations, didn’t feel very excited, and had people expressing their sympathy to me at the rehearsal dinner, instead of congratulating me.

On the morning of the wedding, I was woken up by a phone call from the site coordinator saying they didn’t know how to set anything up. I got my period a few hours later. Our outdoor reception was cold and gray, at the end of May.

But you know what?

The wedding was still beautiful and I’m still married to an incredible man. I still had joy in my heart, and didn’t think once during the wedding day, “Man, I wish I hadn’t lost my job, I wish it was a prettier day, I wish people weren’t so stupid…” And our honeymoon, away from it all for three weeks, was absolutely wonderful.

Life throws sh*t at you sometimes. Don’t let that affect the truly important things in your life; your relationship with your SO, your peace of mind, or your love for yourself. That lost job means so, so little in the span of your life! Chin up. You’ll come back stronger and wiser than ever, I promise!

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