- 7 years ago
On Monday-My new boss brought me into his office to tell me I had the end of the year. I’m devastated because I love my job and I spent just ten months since my promotion getting licensed and learning the ropes. I’m trying not to take it personally as I was “last in, first out.” My company was good enough to look out for other jobs for me in other divisions.
I ran into the head of the division where I was trying to get the job and told him, “I’m mad at you” (Smiling) “You’ve passed by my desk all day and haven’t said hi to me!” We quickly discussed the position in the lobby in front of the receptionist, where I mentioned that I was glad the position I would be working was moved to new digs with a window. I ended the conversation saying that I would be very interested, if the other manager of the position would have me.
I didn’t hear anything and asked HR for my laid-off paperwork in writing so I could “explore my options” as a hint to HR. The HR manager then started off the conversation in a very parent-like way, saying I wouldn’t like what she was going to say. She went on to say that the head of the division didn’t like what I had said, that me saying I was mad at him was “childish” and that I had talked about confidential information about another employee to him in the cafe in front of another coworker. He also accused me of talking down about his division.
I was so shocked I said there must be a misunderstanding and I was ordered by HR to smooth things over with him- but I probably wouldn’t get the job.
The thing is- I NEVER said any of those things. Logically- it doesn’t make sense- I am not a stupid person. Secondly, two other coworkers back me up saying that I never said those things and I trust them to tell me the truth. Thirdly, I will never speak about someone’s personell file. As my coworker pointed out- I have never gossiped about someone’s file to him in private, why would I start in front of the head of a division?
I thought I was leaving this firm with my reputation intact and now I feel like it was ripped to shreds. I’m a lowly cubicle-dweller and I can hardly take on a corner office guy. Nevermind the job- I can’t afford to work with that brand of crazy. I just don’t know how to stand up for myself in this situation without looking like a kid with no manners. I don’t think I should have to “smooth” things over with him because there was no misunderstanding- it was pure fabrication. There is no negotiating with someone who outright is lying. Also- HR is clearly going to side with him as he’s bringing in the money.
I am just so hurt. One of the few things I have is my integrity and for someone to say that I talked inappropriately about another employee is just a punch in the gut- I’m in compliance and I know better. I’m thinking of going in on Monday to say that I won’t smooth things over with him because I will not negotiate with fabrication. Is this career suicide? Do I care at this point about what they think?