(Closed) Lame Family Drama, Vent

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012
Post # 4
19 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

I know how you feel.

I’m forced to invite relatives I haven’t seen for more than 10 years. I have no attachment to them except they are my relatives. They don’t know my life and I don’t know theirs. My bestest friend can’t come to the wedding (long story) and my lame relatives are coming. it’s really upsetting.

I really wanted a small intimate wedding with people we love. it’s not going to happen.

I can’t do anything at this point, and I just have to vent here… ((hugs))

Post # 6
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes ladies… I hate that your famliy wants you to invite poeople who you might not even know who the heck they are!!  However, if they put enough guilt on you, then you end up doing it.

People are crazy!!!  GOOD LUCK!!!

Post # 7
4590 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Just stick to your guns, invite who you want, and just ignore your mom. Family is not all blood, and she needs to deal with it

Post # 8
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Sorry to hear that.  It is the unfortunate part of wedding planning that no one warns you about beforehand.  I have been pretty firm and said no.  I have a couple of aunts and an uncle that I am not inviting to my wedding.  While my dad was initially upset, I explained to him that I wasn’t going to remove someone from the invite list who is going to be a part of my married life just so someone I happen to share DNA with but haven’t seen in 10 years (even though we live in the same city) can come to my wedding.  Since my parents aren’t paying for the wedding, I’ve been pretty fortunate that my family has been understanding about my guest list.  Now FI’s family is a different story, they honestly expect me to invite all 32 cousins.  Not happening.  Asmuch as I wish that my family was able to help pay for the wedding, the benefit of paying for the wedding myself has been that I can pretty much make the decisions I want for my day.  I hope it works out for you.

Post # 9
24 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

Definitely. Stick to your guns.

Post # 10
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Well I think it depends on who is paying really.  If you are paying for your wedding, then definitely you can choose who is on the guest list.  My sister and Brother-In-Law paid for their wedding and rejected many of my parents and his parents requests for guests.

My parents are paying for my wedding so if they want to invite relatives I haven’t seen in 10 years, what say do I really have?  Its not like I have a beef with any of them and can’t stand them, they are just basically strangers.  As long as there is room for all of my and FH’s guests then I will just have to get over it.  I really would rather have eloped, I figure on a future anniversary FH and I can renew vows alone.


Post # 11
1525 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t want a frump in my pictures.



Post # 12
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

its your day, stick with what you n Mr. Want 


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