(Closed) Lamest excuse a guest gave you for not being able to come to the wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 61
Member
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

lantana:  That is a silly excuse.. My lease ends a week after my wedding and the wedding is still happening, and I’m the bride! 

Post # 62
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115 posts
Blushing bee

I had a flaky aunt and uncle in my hometown never send a response.  After the RSVP date had passed I left them a voicemail and emailed them, but didn’t hear anything back.  We got married, then I ran into her at Easter when I was visiting my hometown.  I didn’t mention anything, just said hello.  Her first words to me were: “Oh, I’m sorry that our card got lost in the mail!”  Couldn’t they have at least called or emailed back?  Ah well.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by  Siobhan713.
Post # 63
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848 posts
Busy bee

I honestly don’t want excuses from people. I am just hoping for straight yes or no answers as well as rsvps on time. There won’t be any extra seats for those who don’t rsvp nor answer my follow up text or call to double check if they don’t. Sorry about your luck. Have fun on the 1.5 hour drive back home for being rude.

Post # 64
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345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

2XMOB:  Hi! I have found that in some ways I’m more eager to go to weddings after having my own because I want to see how others do things. After decisions I made for mine, I want to see how someone’s flowers are (love flowers), if they have a photo booth, etc, and of course, be there for the couple. I just enjoy weddings in a different way after having my own – and I can relax more! So I enjoy that!

Funny you mention the STDates. I had 4 on the front of the fridge over the last 6 months. One by one as the wedding happened, I put the STD in a memory box or if it was a magnet moved it to the side of the fridge in a “save” zone. But maybe I’m the odd one because I save everything. But until the wedding happens, it is front and center on the fridge so I can’t help but be reminded 2-3 times a day at least.

Post # 65
Hostess
3933 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

CakeSniffer: It won’t let me tag you but it is actually really hard to get sweet tea up north! My Fiance is from SC and doesn’t drink it anymore (we live in DC) since he couldn’t find it anywhere.

Post # 66
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Ever After Banquet Hall

Oh, on that whole “didn’t RSVP but came anyway” note? I will actually have extra seating, mostly because we couldn’t divide our groups into even multiples of 8 to fill each table perfectly. LOL So, several tables have an extra seat or two. I actually made up place cards for these seats with “names” like “I RSVP’d that I wasn’t coming, but look, here I am,” “I totally ignored all those attempts to find out if I was coming,” “My RSVP must have gotten lost in the mail,” and, my personal favorite, “I accept my punishment by sitting at a table full of people I don’t know.” LOL 

Post # 67
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1149 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

“I can’t make it to your wedding because I am saving for a bike so I can’t afford it” this was one of my oldest and brest friends who I considered asking to be my MOA.

Oh and no, not a motorbike…A bike, bike. She has a wellpaying job by the way.

 

Post # 68
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1204 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I just RSVP’d no to an out-of-town, Monday night wedding because I’m already taking two weeks off of work for my own wedding that month. Am I “that” person you’re all talking about? 

Post # 69
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1117 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We had one family (of like 6!) from our church that we invited only because their daughter was going to make our cake, but then essentially ran away from home and did not. They REFUSED to RSVP! Mother-In-Law talked to them multiple times, I called and emailed, and they kept saying that they weren’t sure yet. Our venue was in the middle of nowhere with no cell reception, so it wasn’t until after the wedding that I discovered they sent me an email the night before saying that they had to pick their kids up from camp at the same time as our wedding. Which I’m really hoping they knew earlier tahn the night before.

Thankfully the cost didn’t change based on the amount of people there, and when we hadn’t received an answer by the time we were setting up I decided to rearrange the seats and not leave any for this rude family.

Post # 70
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4037 posts
Honey bee

missinthecity:  My family has always made their own (N.E. U.S). My grandfather’s recipe: boil 7 tea bags in a gallon of water (I use Tetley), remove bags and blend in 1 cup sugar, 6 oz. frozen orange juice, and 6 oz. frozen lemonade. I always strain both juices, because I’m not a fan of pulp.

Now that I’m drinking caffeine free, lemon, Crystal Light most of the time, I sometimes  put a teaspoon or 2 of orange juice in it.

Post # 71
Member
1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

My mom’s lifetime friend (since like Kindergarten!) didn’t come to my wedding because her husband had to work late that day. She knew a ton of the guests and could have just went on her own.

People are shitty that way.

Post # 72
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2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

The comments here are making me worry that I’ve been an asshole, usually when I decline I just check the no box and write something like “wish I could make it, congratulations you two” and that’s it.  I didn’t know I was supposed to tell them why I couldn’t make it.  “I’ve slept with every single one of the groomsmen” would be really awkward to write on all those RSVP cards…

Post # 73
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840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

no showing is rude, of course. But people dont really owe you excuses with their No RSVPs and this thread illustrates why its not prudent to ever give one!

Post # 74
Member
840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

jennmariee:  you definitely dont owe anyone an explanation and its rude to ask for one. Obviously if it was your sibling or BFF you might call and explain your extrenuating circumstances but for your 2nd cousin, college friend, coworker… the circumstances dont need to be extrenuating at all. You could just not feel like the hassle and expense and thats fine- just check No in a timely fashion and give your best wishes.

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