(Closed) language barriers

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

It just takes time! My best advice would be to watch as many indonesian language based movies, read books about it, get rosetta stone and also take a language course. As your Fiance to speak to you only in indonesian or as much as possible. The more you can absorb the better.

I studied many languages and picked up Argentine spanish just by living amongst them in a household. I also took an introductory course to get the basics down.

It is so exciting to learn about new cultures and get involved! Just jump in , and don’t look back!

Post # 4
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with PP.  Jump in and learn the language.  Your new family will only love you more for making the effort.  Plus you have the bonus of having the best tutor, your FI!

Post # 5
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I agree with PP. Also, presents never hurt either 🙂

Post # 7
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with PP.

And don’t worry, people are usually very understanding if you don’t know the language or customs.  Just pick up stuff as you go =)

Post # 8
741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This was me a few years ago! If I could go back in time, I would tell myself to calm the F down and just be myself. No one expects you to be fluent in the language, just show that you are happy to be there and that you are making a small effort (know some basic words like “thank you” at least). 

God, I was such a trainwreak, I was so nervous! I had a giant coldsore on my face from all the stress of traveling, so I had to try and dodge everyone’s faces as they were trying to do the European kissing thing, ha. I didn’t speak any French, and they didn’t speak any English, so my Fiance had to translate a lot and learning the language was a very humbling experience.

Try to learn the culture, but don’t worry about it too much – chances are you’ll have to learn some of it by experience. Before I came, I read a ton of books on French culture and got myself so worked up about following all the rules! I read somewhere that the guys are always supposed to open the door, so for the first four months I was always worried his dad would judge me if I opened the car door myself! lol! I have no idea how that book was published, I think that custom isn’t even true! 

Post # 10
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Don’t worry you will be fine. I agree with you that it feels a bit awkward not knowing a different language but you will learn little by little. My husband is Polish and his family always speaks Polish around me. I am usually very quiet as i only understand a few words. But i am learning little by little. I’m sure you’ll be able to catch on some words as time goes by. Good luck! 

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