(Closed) Language Barriers

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
21 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes!! I can totally sympathize with you here. My FH’s family is from Vietnam. Learning it is VERY difficult as it is a tonal language and so different from English. I just ordered Rosetta Stone software, actually–I am really trying to learn, as my Future Father-In-Law lives only an hour away from us and we see them frequently. FH and I both want me to give a speech in Vietnamese at the wedding, so I better get crackin’..haha!

Does your FH give you any lessons at  home? Mine teaches me a few words everyday, like when we are making dinner he will teach me a few words, etc. It helps a lot!

Good luck!

Post # 4
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Not me but my Fiance.

Like @FutureMrsTran: you can at least try Rosetta Stone.

My mom speaks a native tongue of our small village but the other one is Cantonese which NO CD Learning company has! It’s frustrating. They only have Mandarin and my mom does not speak Mandarin!

We’ve done small things like put sticky notes up around the house of things. That’s helped some!

Post # 6
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I feel your frustration! I am an American living in Haiti. I didn’t speak an Haitian Creole before I moved here 10 months ago. My FH is Haitian and speaks fluent English in addition to French adn HC. However, his family doesn’t speak any English. I only live about a half mile from his parents and I really want to build a strong relationship with them. They’ll be my only family in the area since my parents and brother all live in the States. I go over for Sunday dinner every couple of weeks, and his parents always make it a point to talk to me and make me feel welcomed. But FH has to translate for me most of the time. I’ve learned a lot of Creole since I’ve been here and I hope to be fluent some day, but in the mean time it’s really difficult to build a real relationship with my in laws.

Post # 7
3 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012


Just a suggestion – I’m working on learning Cantonese and found the Pimsleur tapes.  They’re not bad (they were really good for Italian).  The tonal feature of Cantonese makes it so that you’ll have to help your Fiance with all the pronunciation.  Mine listens to my tapes and then helps me to understand what I think I hear, from what I should actually be saying. 

Good luck! 

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