Post # 1
My fiance and I are having trouble keeping the party down in size. We possibly have eight per side and we are concerned that it will look tacky or just too much. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to keep this from happening? Has anyone had a large party and wished they would have went smaller??? Thanks!
Post # 3
I was just part of a wedding with eight bridesmaids and seven groomsmen, plus four ushers.
The wedding had many guests (in the range of 350), so the size of the wedding party made sense. The pictures were very pretty as well, with so many matching dresses. And, I think the bride appreciated having so many hands helping to pull everything together.
I would caution that the processional was a bit of a production, however. A few guests said it seemed like it lasted forever!
A different friend of mine had a few bridesmaids and then had additional female attendants that did not stand as part of the wedding party, but they wore coordinating dresses.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do!
Post # 4
Well, think of it this way: you have to buy each and every person in your party a thank you gift which costs an average of $50-100 (I throw that estimate around loosely). Is that really what you want to spend your wedding gift money on?
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2011 - in the woods
I have been in bridal parties with five and six girls and next year will be in one with eight! If you are worried about how long it will take all of the bridesmaids to walk down the aisle, what about having them walk down two at a time? We did that in one wedding I was in and it went so well!
Post # 6
I think it depends on the size of your wedding whether 8 is too much. The larger the wedding, the more attendants it is reasonable to have. Also, you might move some of them into different roles, such as readers, ushers, and so forth rather than attendants.
Post # 7
I think if you are having the people who are most important to you in your bridal party – and that ends up being 8 – then that is how many you should have. I am having 8 also and that includes sisters and close friends. Even though our weddding party might seem large for the size of our wedding (200-250) I wouldn’t cut anyone out for the sake of what "looks" good or becasue I am going to have to spend more on attendant presents. The girls were all chosen because they are very special to me and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 8
I took the same approach as Surgie. We have 7 each and 225 guests. I asked 2 other friends to be readers. It will be a bit more expensive, but $50-$100 for a few extra people seems a small price to pay for having my best friends stand up with me. That being said, I also like other’s ideas about asking pwople you would ask to be bridal party members to take on other roles (reader, guestbook, usher, etc.). Good luck!
Post # 9
I know a few other Bees have mentioned this…but I completely forgot to take into account the cost of having bridesmaids!
I was debating between having 6 bridesmaids or just having my 2 sisters as bridesmaids. For me, the variable cost of each Bmaid isn’t just a present…but a present, an updo, and a bouquet. (Variable cost…Glad I remembered something from Economics 101!) Anyway, I decided to have 6, and the decision is costing me about $1000.
So yeah…long story short, the decision doesn’t just affect the look and flow of your ceremony. It can also impact your budget!
One option for you is something my friend did…she was concerned about having too many bridesmaids, so she had a "house party." These girls sat in a reserved row near the front of the church, received corsages, and were mentioned in the program. They also spent time with the rest of the bridal party before the ceremony. Some people like this option because you’re basically a bridesmaid without having to buy a dress! 🙂 Good luck!!!!
Post # 10
I read somewhere that you should have 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man per 50 guests. We’re off but I don’t mind 🙂
Post # 11
i am WAYYYY off per the whole 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man per 50 guests. we are having 7 on each side. and only about 150 guests. i really dont care what they think as it isnt about them its about us and i want my closest girls right up there with me. not to mention that 2 i dont want cuz they are bridemaidzillas but im forced cuz one is Future Sister-In-Law and one is my cousin. my mom isnt allowing me to give them the boot! who cares, have as many as you want! itll be beautiful for the pictures!
Post # 12
We are having 6 per side. Inviting 400.
Post # 13
My Bridal Party is HUGE. 16 Bridesmaid, 16 Groomsmen, 1 Flower Girl and 1 Ring Bearer. Despite was the “experts” say I would not even think about cutting anyone from my party. The size of our wedding is somewhere around 250-300 but all of these people mean the world to us and we love each and everyone of them.