(Closed) Large hands with a smaller diamond

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I understand what you’re going through. You don’t even have big hands whereas I do and the main reason I got a bigger diamond than my fiancé intended on was because he thought a small diamond would look ridiculous. He was right. I never much cared for the size. I mean, every female wants a rock if it’s within reach, but most aren’t expecting their Fiance to take out a bank loan, lol. He showed me the one he planned to get and I wouldn’t have liked it. Would I have said anything? No. I would have pretended to love it and probably learned to love it. I think it’s selfish not to be happy with what you’re given in a situation like this. You can always get a thicker flashier wedding band to balance it out. I don’t think your diamond is all that small!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

limerita:  My ex Fiance gave me a .3 solitaire (I wear a 7).  At first I thought it was TINY, especially compared to everyone else’s ring.  But I came to love that little ring.  

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

If you loved it beore anyone had said anything I would try to just ignore it. Some people may think it’s too small, some too big. Not that it’s not really up to them. I would be floored if my family were to say anything negative to me about my ring…

if you feel like it’s too small, that’s another thing. but since you picked it out i don’t think you’d see it that way? 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think it looks gorgeous, but I tend to think that smaller stones flatter “larger” hands more than bigger ones do. It elongates the fingers and makes the hand look more feminine and delicate IMO. I sometimes think a smaller ring would have made my hands look better TBH. 

But hey, it’s your ring, so at the end of the day, hope you get whatever makes you happy!

Post # 6
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378 posts
Helper bee

Your ring is beautiful! The ratio of the stone to the band width is super pretty- truly!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - City, State

TheGridMonster:  yesssss totally agree!

OP, I love that size on you. it’s so classy and elegant!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think it looks beautiful and not small at all. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

limerita:  Your ring is gorgeous girl!! I think it looks totally proportional on your finger… I also totally agree with TheGridMonster on here opinion about making the hands look more feminine and elongating. 🙂 Either way it is GORG! 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I downsized from 1.92tcw three stone (1.28 center) to a .78 cushion. So I’m the wrong person to ask but I think your diamond is fine and if your family wants you to have something bigger, they are certainly welcome to contribute to the cause.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

That is a really lovely ring and it look beautiful on your hand!  You have nice hands!  🙂  I definitely don’t think it is too small on you.  See how you feel down the road…because it was his mother’s, it probably means a lot to him that you wear it. You can always upgrade to a bigger stone on an anniversary and wear your current ring on your right hand.  The first ring my hubby got me was a 0.36 carat and I loved it.  It was small, but so sparkly and in a very unique setting that I loved.  He later upgraded it and got me a 1.03 carat, but I still love my small ring so much and still enjoy wearing it.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Those saying negative things about your ring have a lot of nerve!  I think it’s gorgeous and looks great on your hand.  

Mine has a similar setting, but the center stone is a princess cut.  I plan on getting a ring wrap rather than a single band in hopes of enhancing the center stone.  

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

sc5645:  I too downsized (from 2.5 to .25!). The original ring was a family heirloom. I know lots of bees love their big stones, but it felt a bit gaudy to me, and it was stressful to me having something so valuable. I love my new ring. (He bought it on Etsy, and the seller listed it as .25 carats, but it looks closer to .5 to me. I think maybe it’s wider than it is deep.) 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

limerita: I actually love how your ring looks on your hand!  I think it is delicate and feminine, and doesn’t get lost at all.  

Then again, that is my opinion, and I’m not the one looking at it every day.  When I first got engaged in October, I thought my band was way too thick and wanted to change it.  But now, I’ve grown to love it, even though it might not be what other people prefer.  I would say give yourself a little more time to get used to the ring before thinking of upgrading in size.  In the end, do whatever makes you happiest! 🙂 

  

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have a .3 carat solitaire pear and wear an 8.5 ring size (I guess I have man hands!)

I love my ring! It is so delicate and feminine and not gaudy. And looks plenty big to me, TBH.

1 carat diamonds are expensive as heck, and I don’t think the rings on the bee are representative of the population as a whole (nothing wrong with those rings, but I have never seen so many large diamonds in real life!) Just like the budget wedding thread currently running– there are a LOT of big budget brides. The “average” wedding cost of $30,000, or whatever it is , doesn’t really represent the person in the middle. There are way more brides well under the average, but the really really expensive weddings pull the average upwards.

In other words, what you see on here skews toward the upper class.

And your ring is not only beautiful, but how lovely to have an heirloom diamond with sentiment. That is special.

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