Post # 1
So we’re planning a wedding with around 75 people. As I read through all the boards, I have to say I’m pretty shocked at how many people are having 200+ person weddings! I don’t even know that many people! Our situation is a little different – we both have families overseas and most of them won’t be coming (too expensive). So that right there eliminates a bunch of people…. but still!!! I mean, I can’t imagine standing up in front of that many people, let alone greeting all of them. Am I alone? Is my wedding considered “small”? When I think “small” I think like 30-50 people. For any of you large wedding brides….. how the heck do you wind up with numbers like that? lol.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t say your wedding is small. It’s nice and intimate. It doesn’t matter what other people are doing, it’s about what feels right for you.
Post # 4
It adds up quickly with family. I am having around 160, and that is difficult. When it comes to family, there may be some not-so-close members that you invite just for the sake of not offending them. I wish I could have a smaller wedding, but I can’t cut it down any more than that. I think 75 is small to average. I often wonder how people can have 30-50 person weddings, and I wonder who they invite!
Post # 5
We are inviting about 210 people. I think we will have about 170-180 actually come. I was orignally thinking that we would only have about 100 people there. Man was I wrong. My parents are the reason why my guest list got out of control. Apparently everyone needs a courtesy invite! Ugh. Well since they are helping pay for it I guess I cannot complain. LOL
Post # 6
We are inviting 36 people to ours 🙂
We both have very small families – our parents and one sibling each that will be attending, and aren’t close with a large number of friends. Only 1 out of our 8 total grandparents is still alive.
So we have a few family members each, a few friends each, and a few family friends each, plus their SO’s = 36! So realistically maybe 30 people attending?
ETA: How does everyone know so many people??? haha
Post # 7
I was with you. I thought a small wedding was essentially eloping with your parents and siblings. Your wedding I don’t think HAS to be large or small. It can just be a perfect medium sized wedding.
Post # 8
I don’t think your wedding is small! We are inviting around 130 people, but hoping that 100-110 say yes
Post # 9
Thanks for the info. I guess it just caught me off guard…. especially in this economy. I mean, I know a lot of people…. but I wouldn’t say I would want them there to witness my marriage. But then again, with a lot of family out of the country, that does cut down on at least 21 people right there that I can think of……
Post # 10
We have about 200, but its 80% Out of Town so who knows what the final number will actually be (we havent sent Save-The-Date Cards yet so it will be awhile till I find out). Plus we gave every nonmarried person over 18 a plus one, with a few exception (recently divorced/widowed). We’re young (23 and 25 when we get married) so most of our friends are single, or dating people not very seriously. I doubt they will fly a guest to the wedding. The minimum at our venue is 165, so I’m hoping we have that many people. A large portion of the guest list is my family (my mom is the oldest of 7, and they all have kids), his family, and members of his church.
Post # 11
We had 80 and it was wonderful and intimate.
We easilly could have had 200, but then 1/2 would have been ‘duty’ invites… and not really people we wanted there.
Post # 12
We invited 270 and it was hard for us to keep it that low! Friends, family and our parents’ friends really add up. Unfortunately there was still a lot of family we couldnt invite.