(Closed) Large wedding parties – questions

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

michellia:  Cheers to not apologizing!!

I never understand all the judgy comments about large bridal parties. Just because it isn’t right for others doesn’t mean it isn’t right for us!! 

Post # 17
4891 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

22 BMs? Eek!! Is it one of those where you feel you need to include everyone whose wedding you were in? Wow.

We had 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 2 Groomsmen. We had a small wedding ceremony (around 50 people), and I didn’t feel like having a larger wedding party. I had my sister (MOH) and SIL (BM), and Darling Husband had his brother (BM) and Brother-In-Law (siter’s hubby, GM). Our siblings would be a no brainer, and Darling Husband was friends with his Brother-In-Law before his sister and him hooked up, and eventually got married.

I was happy with this. It was easier to organize and decide on things. Plus, even out photog said that she liked the size, as it was easier for her to place people and only have to worry about the 6 of us and not more, if someone was blinking, etc.

I think the average around here, or for weddings I’ve attended is 5 on each side.

Post # 18
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

The Fiance and I decided on a maximum of 6 Bridesmaids and 6 Groomsmen so it wouldn’t get too out of hand and we narrowed it down by choosing just the 6 of our friends that we consider very close, supportive and someone that has contributed to both of our lives (not just one of us). So our whole bridal party is pretty much family to the both of us.

Post # 19
5 posts
  • Wedding: August 2016

We’re having 6 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen for a 120 person wedding. We have a large group of mutual friends, and that was just the natural cut off…any fewer and it would have been impossible to choose, but we were comfortable not adding anyone else.

At first I was a bit worried that it would be too many, but I decided who cares! Pretty much everyone in our wedding party are friends already and it’s been fine so far.

Post # 20
3892 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

michellia:  BeachBee1988:  I badly wanted to be “one of those brides” since I a genuinely have 12 very close friends and wanted them by my side, but Fiance has only a few close friends and wanted to have even sides + it would’ve gotten expensive to have that many.  People can judge, do what yall think is best!!! 

Post # 21
2331 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

michellia:  Amen

My husband couldn’t decide on who to pick (he has a huge family and a ton of friends), he ended up with 10. I matched his number. It was after all, HIS wedding as well. And for my own OCD relief, I needed even numbers.

This was definitely not an “ego” thing like someone else mentioned. We had 500 guests (more or less), our bridal party was actually small considering the size of the wedding. 

I wouldn’t have it any other way, we had an absolute blast with everyone before, during and after the wedding. And the wedding pictures came out freaking amazing.

sorry not sorry 😀

Post # 22
1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

American bride (specifically the Seattle area) and we have zero in our party.


I have four best friends and two sisters, and all of my friends sort of titled themselves Maid/Matron of Honor. To avoid hurt feelings and having to choose, I decided on none. Fiance only really cared about his brother being involved, so he is our officiant. No worries about symmetry! 🙂

Post # 23
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I think it depends how big the wedding is and also how big your family is (if you are close with them). I have 3 sisters, Fiance has 2 sisters and I chose 2 of my closest friends so I have 7 total. Our wedding will be around 250 people. I am a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding next year and there will be 15 bridesmaids and 15 groomsmen…to each their own but I would never want to coordinate 15 people!! It’s already hard enough with 7 lol 

Post # 25
1389 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I have 9 bridesmaids… somehow. It all happened so fast! I have 4 close friends, and a friend that got engaged before I did and asked me to be in her bridal party– so I included her as well. Then I have 2 cousins I am close with, and then we decided to include siblings, so I have my fiance’s sister and his sister-in-law. And I guess that comes to 9, like what?! Oh… Also I have 3 sisters, and they are my mini maids. So if you count them… that’s 12. Whatever, who really cares anyway, I am super introverted and way surprised at the amount, but it ain’t no thing!

Post # 26
19 posts
  • Wedding: July 2017

angelinagonzalez:  you sound like me! I was hoping for 6 max, but my Fiance who is very social wanted 10! Right now he’s at 9, and I’m hoping I can have one of them officiate so that we can get it down to 8 which for me feels just right at this point. I’m pretty introverted as well but I ended up picking 8 no problem.

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