Large wedding party. Do I have to seat them together?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
8019 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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mrsssb :  can I pull apart the wedding party completely and group them according to who they would most enjoy sitting with and hanging out with?

Yes, absolutely. I wish more people would do this.

Post # 4
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We had a large wedding party – 7 Bridesmaids, 2 junior bridesmaids, 6 groomsmen 2 junior groomsmen. The juniors sat with their parents. Then we put the bridesmaids, groomsmen and their significant others at two tables based off who in the bridal party they get along with best.  Our siblings that were in the bridal party sat with the bridal party because they wouldn’t fit at the tables with family.

So I recommend working on your seating chart and just seeing what works best. 

Post # 5
1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Most of the people in our wedding party didn’t know each other and were attending with either spouses or children (or both) who were not in the party.

We didn’t seat the party together at all. 

Sister + page boys (her sons), and Maid/Matron of Honor + husband + their two children were seated on one table together with a couple they both knew, and a few other couples with children of similar age.

Bridesman sat with all the people he knows from the social group we are both part of.

Junior Bridesmaid or Best Man (not a family member of mine) sat on my table with her parents. Because I wanted them there.

Groom’s two sons also sat on our table, but the Best Man sat with his partner on a different table with all their friends.

It was not a problem. I’m not aware of any offence, since we split up nearly everyone. We hate it when we go to weddings and are forced to ‘mingle’ with people we don’t know, so intentionally sat everyone on tables with as many of their friends/family as possible.


Post # 6
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We separated our wedding party and sat them at different tables with their SO’s/other people they knew best. Only the best man sat at our head table (FIL was the best man and we just sat with our parents). I would absolutely prefer to sit with my SO and don’t care about being at the head table when I am in a wedding party. 

Post # 7
7801 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I love your idea! We did the same. My husband had 2 gm, one was his brother who sat with his friends/family friends, and one was his long time friend that sat with other groom friends. It worked out great! 

Post # 8
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We did (for the most part) but they all were friends.  One of my bridesmaids was my husbands niece and groomsman was my husbands brother so she sat with the “immediate family”.  the rest of the bridal party and their partners (8 ppl) sat at 1 table.  IMO, there’s nothing wrong with splitting them up to where they would be most comfortable

Post # 9
1026 posts
Bumble bee

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mrsssb :  I didn’t read responses, but some of my bridesmaids were my FI’s sisters, some were my friends from college, and some were friends from high school – FI’s sisters sat with their cousins, college friends sat with college friends, HS friends sat with high school friends. ESPECIALLY if you’re not sitting with them there’s zero reason to force the bridal party (who’s connection is you) to sit together

Post # 10
137 posts
Blushing bee

We did the same– separated our bridal party based on who they would have the most fun with 🙂

Also, when I am a bridesmaid, this is what I hope for too!

Post # 11
4723 posts
Honey bee

Another vote for separating them.

Post # 12
3888 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Definitely!  Put people next to their own friends and family.

Post # 13
858 posts
Busy bee

Honestly I wish it was more normal. The last wedding I was in the party got seated togther with other members of the party, but not our partners. So my fiance had to sit at a table with some of the college friends of myself and the bride (we were roomates in school) that he kind of new from when we first met. I would way rather have sat at that table tbh!

Post # 14
13809 posts
Honey Beekeeper

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mrsssb :  There is tradition, but no rule that obligates you to seat the wedding party together. Traditionally, SOs and +1s of all guests, not just of the wedding party, aren’t seated together or even at the same table. That’s so that people might mingle. But few people follow that custom, either.

Post # 15
2124 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We had our wedding party at a head table but it really didn’t matter because everyone was everywhere all night. At the end of the day no one cares where anyone sits so you do you.

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