(Closed) Last Call for RSVP!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would just call everyone who hasn’t responded yet.

To be honest, I know this is a Destination Wedding, but some people can’t plan that far ahead.  That’s why most wedding invites go out 8 weeks prior.  Even for DWs.  You sent out Save the Dates, so people have the date on their calendars, but may not be ready to decide if they can go.

I would revisit this issue a month before your busy season starts.  Get as much done now as you can, because no matter what you will need to do last minute stuff during your busy season – that’s just how wedding planning works.

Post # 4
3265 posts
Sugar bee

You can’t be upset with people for not knowing what their commitments, work schedules, and finances will be several months down the line.

They are well within the guidelines of etiquette, and unfortunately you are the one who stepped outside of it. 

It would be nice for all brides to know months ahead of time exactly how many guests are coming, to have months to prepare favours, do seating charts etc.  But polite hosting requires you to hold off, and send out invites 6-8 weeks ahead of time.

If I got an email invite >12 months ahead of the date of the function, I would probably think a more formal invitation was to follow. 

Also, the fact that the hotel comps you if more guests sign up, isn’t really the guests issue.  And I am not sure you should have even mentioned it. 


Post # 6
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Maybe your guests don’t have the money now, but will 9 months from now. While what you are explaining is more convenient for you, for your guests it is really unreasonable. 

Post # 7
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

At the request of the OP this thread is closed.

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