- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Hi Bees!!! I am getting married the 22nd of this month! yay! BUT UGGHHHH all of these last minute catastrophes are driving me insane! We were trying to keep the guest list down to a minimum and keep it a small affair. BUT I have a large family and that does not look like its going to possible! We had decided to note in the invitations that it was an “Adult reception”. Hmm. I never ever realized what a mess that was going to cause. On my side, I have alot of neices and nephews that have small children. Firstly, I didn’t want to have to pay for each little toddler/child to eat, and have it wind up that they dont eat at all. Secondly, I really do not want to see all of these little ones running around crazy unsupervised and screaming, babies crying etc. Is this bad of me??? UGHH. Then when I make exceptions to special circumstances (young pre-teens) where do I draw the line? I SHOULD have been more explicit in the invitations, or just not written adult reception at all. Then some people say ” I can pay for my child if they come” Who does that? omg It is creating problems with family members, and its not even the wedding day yet! Of course my grandson (ring bearer) and flower girl (neice) will be there, and then I have family members out of town who have pre-teens who I said that could come, (they are traveling a 6 hour drive) and they said if the children couldnt come, then they would not come either. UGHH. I regret having my invitation written that way. I figured adults would understand and actually want to have an evening out without small children. All it did was create issues.
The other problem I am having is that people are asking me “I want to go, count me in” THEY ARE INVITING THEMSELVES! How do I tell people I am sorry but I just cant have you come. ?? OMG. I am so frustrated. Sorry Bees I am venting. If one more person asks if they can come, I’ll scream lol !!!
How should I handle this? HELP!