- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
We started this engagement wanting a very small intimate wedding. We really wanted to elope, but felt family pressure from his side and decided to throw a small intimate wedding. At first, my family was in favour of us eloping, and if not that a very small wedding. Now, my mom has completely taken over, we’re the ones paying for it, it the hopes that we could keep it small and true to us, but that’s not working. It’s turning out to be nothing like we wanted. I just feel sick to my stomach everytime we talk about it. The kicker is that his family has decided that it’s too far away so they might not even come! I never grew up picturing my ideal wedding, we just want to get married in the trees. Eloping solves these problems, and is what we wanted to do originally.
Last week my mom and I went to look at venues, we didn’t find anything that felt authentic to us, but we found lots that my Mom really liked. She has dove right in to happily wedding planning. She already got her dress, has been buying decorations etc.
We’re planning on eloping next Thursday, how should I tell her? I think that she will be supportive, though disappointed. Should I tell her before so she doesnt waste any more time and money on the wedding that won’t happen? Or should I tell her after? We have vacation time already booked, and have been planning a four day backpacking trip. I know it’s not much of a honeymoon, but I’m excited, we will get married on Thursday, and then do the hike as planned. (Honeymoon later in the year, we can’t get more time off oh such short notice) This means that we wouldn’t be able to tell anyone until 4 or 5 days after we were married. Is this really rude? As much as I want to post an instagram shot asap, I want to tell our parents in person for mine, and over the phone for his, they are out of town.