Post # 1
I’m among the first of my friends to get married. The two friends I have who did get married both told me to tell my caterer a slightly low number for guestcount – both of them had at least two guests who didn’t show at the last minute. For those who are already married – did last minute no-shows happen to you as well?
Post # 3
We had a couple people cancel, but then we had a couple people ask to bring guests or suddenly say they were coming, so it really evened out. Are you having a plated meal with seat assignments, or a buffet? If a buffet, I think it’s ok to tell them a person or two less, just because they generally make 10% more food than they think will be necessary. When is your last date to give them a final count before the wedding?
Post # 4
i’m not talking from experience here but I think this would be a little foolish … yes, you may have some guests not make it but you also might have some guests who make it after all! And what if everyone does come and then you are a few meals short? I can understand budgeting a little less for cake or programs maybe even favors but the actual meal? If it is sit-down, give the caterer an accurate number. My only exception would be buffet/stations.
Post # 5
Yeah, I would say you can go less for buffet, but definitely not for a plated dinner. What if you did an online RSVP so that people could change their RSVP closer to the RSVP deadline (I know some people send out theirs immediately, but then plans change)?
Post # 6
Our wedding is next saturday and so far in the past week I have had 8 people change there rsvp from "no" to "yes". I also had 2 people cancel, so I had to make some last minute ajustments to the final count and seating arrangement.
Luckily the final payment and count isn’t due until this tuesday, so I have a few days to work it all out. I doubt any more changes will happen in the next 7 days. Who knows maybe we will get a "no show" but if we do, oh well… nothing we can do about it..
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! This is super helpful. We are having a buffet … however, I hadn’t thought about the fact that people might change from "no" to "yes" at the last minute. Our guestcount is due 10 days in advance … based on your feedback, I’ll probably give an accurate number and assume last minute changes will all even out.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
I’m not married yet (obvs) but a couple of my friends had ppl show up that didn’t RSVP… I’m keeping the number the same just in case that happens.
Post # 9
when my friend got married about 18months ago, we were all dressed up and getting in the cars for the church when the phone rang and someone was cancelling (2 spots)!!!
Post # 10
Juliemd414– Omigosh… 8 people changed their RSVP from no to yes? Wow…I hadn’t even thought of people changing from a no to a yes…especially not 8!
Post # 11
We were told by friends, family and our venue that a lot of times even when you have last minute cancellations/no shows, you may also have people that never RSVPed, or that RSVPed "no" show up!
We had 4 no-shows and 3 extras so it was mostly a wash.
Post # 12
We actually have 7 people who cannot give a solid RSVPs for various (valid) reasons…it sucks but what can we do? We might just end up with empty chairs.